Seating plan WWYD

[Boymumma1990]

Hi everyone

WWYD? So currently planning our wedding and trying to sort out seating plan and top table and this is where I am struggling. We have 2 children so would like them sat with us at the top table and then just MOH and Best Man. The reason for this is my parents are separated but my mum has been with my stepdad for many years so I have 3 parents but my partners dad passed away when he was young so he has 1 parent and I worried it would look a little strange for me to have my 3 parents sat there and my partners 1. I'm worried I am going to upset his family as his mum raised him on her and he is an only child. She feels she should sit at the top table.

Don’t worry about how it looks. Have his mum there

Can’t your children sit next to his mum so it is 3 on either side? Or have a round top table so it doesn’t need to be symmetrical.

You can't invent parents to make up the numbers. Just go with the 3 of yours and 1 of his.

Nobody will remember your table a few days after.

It's not worth the stress worrying about. If your partner really feels outnumbered, then ask an aunt or unless his side to join her.

Sit the kids on mum's side.

Unless = uncle

Good luck!

It won’t look like anything other than your family being around you. It won’t register to anyone as strange at all. Just do what creates most happiness.

Have all the parents there. Including people you love is more important than the visuals!

Have everyone there, it's your wedding

Sit his Mum and your Dad on one side, and your Mum and Stepdad on the other

Then either sit the kids together on one side and MOH and Best Man on the other, or split the kids and split MOH and Best Man

Have his mum up there. Put the kids sat with his mum.

Sit kids next to nan or you could sit you father next to her to balance the sides. Think of it as your all one family so why does it matter which side they sit?

I would sit your dad with his mum to even it out the adults.

We did a round table and no parents. They sat with our siblings/aunties/uncles.

Attended a wedding where bride, groom, best man and chief bridesmaid say at a top table.

Their various parents and step parents sat on separate tables around the room.

Worked really well.

Well if his Mum wants to sit up there then put all the parents on there. I am wondering who you think it will look strange to? Surely the people you have invited are your friends and family. I think sit your Dad with the grooms's Mum if you want to "even up" the table.

You could do a top table with just you, groom , MOH and BM, palm the children off onto a table with the Grandparents which is what our friends did because they knew it would be hard work to enjoy their meal otherwise.

There is no need to follow a traditional order of seating. Do what works best for your family. I wouldn't care if you had 3 parents for one and 1 for the other. That is just fact.

On the face of it, it’s thoughtless and unkind, but you just have to be the bigger person and go along with their plans with a smile. Is your ex paying more towards the wedding or property than you are?

In the long term I would be upset by the lack of relationship and would focus on rebuilding things.

Don't have a long top table. Have a round table big enough for you, the parents and kids, in the middle of the room near the cake table. MoH and best man can be at the next tables? That way you can have all together without worrying about it looking unbalanced.

It all makes sense with your update, OP. Very difficult situation for you and your kids. Honestly, I would go along, support your son and keep doing your best to maintain and perhaps improve all relationships. Without wishing the couple ill, the marriage may not last forever. It's important to be there so you can continue your relationship with your son.

Sorry, I've somehow got flipped to a thread I hadn't read. Website blip alert!

I'd sit your dad beside his mum on his side and your mum and stepdad on your side?