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Gifts to each other on your wedding day?

40 replies

MadCatLady27 · 28/07/2023 15:02

What's the general view on this?

Is it traditional for the bride and groom to buy each other a gift for the day? Or a card?

If you do buy a gift when do you give it to one another (I'm staying at my parents the night before)

OH thinks not but I thought you did... Haven't got anything yet and wedding is very imminent!

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KnittedCardi · 28/07/2023 15:06

Never heard of that. American import perhaps?

pilates · 28/07/2023 15:08

I never did but I’m in my 50’s, maybe it’s a new thing?

fairgame84 · 28/07/2023 15:09

I've never heard of the bride and groom buying gifts for each other.

tinselvestsparklepants · 28/07/2023 15:12

I have him a book. But it was personal choice, not because it was a "thing".

sawnotseen · 28/07/2023 15:14

No didn't exchange gifts, 20yrs ago. My neice is getting married next month and I don't thing her and her husband to be are exchanging gifts, never heard of it before

Strokethefurrywall · 28/07/2023 15:14

I bought husband a watch, and I arranged his brother to give to him on our wedding day before the ceremony.
I don't think it's traditional, but I got a big flashy ring and he got the watch. Just something we did for each other.

Pinkitydrinkity · 28/07/2023 15:15

I think a card is really sweet. I don’t think presents are needed but something sentimental would be nice, don’t just give for the sake of it!

user12345678912334 · 28/07/2023 16:15

I bought mine a golf putter...🤷🏼‍♀️

BlastedIce · 28/07/2023 16:17

My husband bought me a claddagh ring (as well as my wedding ring) on our wedding day, been married 37 years, so not a new thing.

Needmorelego · 28/07/2023 16:17

I’ve never heard of that.
Surely your rings and commitment is your gift to each other?

yikesanotherbooboo · 28/07/2023 16:28

Your wedding rings are your gifts. If one of you doesn't want a ring then a watch or other type of jewellery. No other gifts are necessary.

Thelondonone · 28/07/2023 16:28

I definitely got him a card and I think we both got gifts but neither of us can remember so maybe don’t bother….

Letterposter · 28/07/2023 16:30

Yep, he bought me an emerald necklace and I bought him a watch

Maddy70 · 28/07/2023 16:33

Never heard of it. You get a ring each

caringcarer · 28/07/2023 17:08

My DHtb bought me a beautiful necklace I wore on my wedding day as a gift. I bought him an oil painting I commissioned of his childhood beach. He had told me many times he misses his beach. It's hung in his office WFH/a spare little bedroom.

WhatFlavourIsIt · 28/07/2023 17:36

My husband gave me a beautiful diamond pendant & earrings. I gave him a fancy watch. This was 20 odd years ago, so it's not a recent thing.

NeverThatSerious · 28/07/2023 17:44

I got my husband some special cufflinks and gave them to the best man to give to DH on the morning. He sent me a bouquet of pink and white roses (same as he gave me when he picked me up for our first date) to be delivered while I was getting ready.
No massive expense, albeit not free, but really sweet.

Bananasinpjamas4567 · 28/07/2023 17:50

I got DH some collar stiffeners (which he used regularly for shirts) engraved with something personal to us. He was very surprised and felt bad he didn’t get me anything but it didn’t matter to me at all!

UsingChangeofName · 28/07/2023 17:56

Is it traditional for the bride and groom to buy each other a gift for the day? Or a card?

I would say the tradition is to exchange rings. The ring is the present.

I mean, not that anyone has to do something because it is tradition, nor does it matter if you choose to do something that isn't traditional, but I wouldn't (and didn't). It is just one more thing to be thinking about, and one more thing to have to budget for.

Mortimermay · 28/07/2023 17:57

I did think it was traditional. Maybe varies by area? I bought my husband a watch and he gave me a necklace which I wore on the day.

SoundTheSirens · 28/07/2023 17:58

We did, and exchanged them the day before the wedding, before I left for my parents’ house - I gave him cufflinks that he then decided to wear on the day, he gave me a pretty nightdress & robe set in our ‘wedding colours’ which I chose to take on honeymoon. I don’t recall doing it out of any sense of tradition (and this was over 20 years ago) but we’ve always enjoyed giving each other ‘just because’ presents, then and now.

HarrietStyles · 28/07/2023 18:00

I secretly did a professional nude photoshoot (it was classy, not tacky!) and had the photos printed in an album. He opened it on our wedding morning. He was quite pleased with that 😂

HarrietJet · 28/07/2023 18:03

It's not a tradition.

HarrietJet · 28/07/2023 18:09

Classy nudes, eh? I'll bet.

HarrietStyles · 28/07/2023 18:47

Yes classy. I had no clothes on but no “bits” are in the photos. It’s done professionally with clever lighting, silhouettes, draped sheets. I found it empowering and liberating, my husband loved the photos and still does 20 years later. Maybe you should be less judgemental and rude.