No Gift Registry - what (hopefully) unique would you get?

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SIL and BIL-to-be don't have a gift registry and I'm hoping to avoid doubling up with anyone else. I'm looking for ideas for gifts of a max of £100. They aren't particularly easy to buy for usually, as SIL is quite particular about appearing 'proper' so quality is important. BIL is a walking ray of sunshine and would be delighted with a plain paper bag.

No registry mean cash!

cold hard cash!

Is that true @HermioneKipper ? SIL said she was "looking forward to what people chose to buy". Is this part of the code??

They want cash

No pressure then. That sounds like she’s going to be giving marks out of 10 😅

Honestly I’d give them a John Lewis Voucher if you don’t want to give cash.

Or a personalised photo frame with their names and wedding date on if they like that kind of thing.

I’ve never ever heard of this and I’ve been to loads of weddings. Either a registry (although they’re very few and far between these days). People nearly always want cash and if no registry that has always meant they want cash in my experience.

Are they going on honeymoon? How about some cash in euros or the currency of wherever they’re going

SIL sounds like a huge pain in the arse and she’s going to be very disappointed and getting a load of stuff she doesn’t want

Yep, cash, holiday money, vouchers, whatever. No one actually wants a photo frame!

We had no registry and told people we didn’t want gifts (or money). Someone bought us a lovely clock that is on our mantelpiece and someone else a really good quality glass bowl that we use for fruit. Both useful things that I look at everyday.

My favourite gifts were a couple of beautiful prints/pictures, a gorgeous hand painted salad/fruit bowl. You could get a small gift and top up with money/voucher.

I didn't have a register as my husband and I had already been living together and didn't need to set up a home. I didn't believe in dictating to my guests what new things I wanted (rather than needed).

I genuinely didn't want or expect cash. I loved when people got me something they actually chose. It meant so much to me. My sis got us personalised beach towels for our honeymoon, my friend got me a lovely white company photo frame etc etc.

So if you want to get them something meaningful then do, I def wouldn't see this as a cash grab?

I'd assume money. I wouldn't want the stress of trying to guess what present to get someone whose very particular to be honest.

Decent bottle(s) of wine? Decanter? Glasses?

Book dinner for them somewhere lovely but not ridiculously expensive
A gorgeous bottle of wine or port
Personalised his n hers Emma Bridgewater (or similar) mugs
A salad bowl
Something from Lalique or Le Creuset
A piece of ceramic from a nice gift gallery

I would go for a simple, classic solid silver photo frame, in a perfect world, probably hallmarked with the year of their wedding!

Give them cash

Luxury-quality sheets.

Actually I've no idea how much that would cost. <google> this link suggests silk is out of your budget but linen might work, or high-count cotton.

They want cash but are too nice to say. If they’ve already set up
home together they don’t want useless tatt. When my DSis gets married soon I’m going for £100 cash towards a honeymoon or whatever they decide and something personalised tor them for their home (picture frame, towels etc) not sure which not nothing extreme as DSis is picky

All depends on their set up. Personally I would love a Le crueset pan, but if they have lots of home stuff, I would think what she likes, we she like a cushion embroidered with her wedding date for instance? Perhaps get a John Lewis voucher to make up the difference

I would take the message at face value

Thank you all for these ideas. I am going to do some browsing of handmade/personalised things they (SIL) might like. They're not having a honeymoon and already own a house together so it makes it a little trickier. I think something with a use is probably about right, though. I fear our tastes might not match up for something like an ornament or picture.

They live in a lovely part of the peak district, so I might also have a look at local businesses to see if we can get them a voucher for something of their own choosing, or a meal/experience.

Thank you all for your ideas!

Do they have a garden ? How about a tree to commemorate their wedding ?

Those large wooden freestanding initials you can buy on Not On The High Street with their wedding date on and a special message from you

Are they having any readings at their wedding that you know of ? Perhaps one of those framed modern calligraphy brush lettering prints of said reading with their names and dates added ?

I would say something for the garden too.

Someone gave us a voucher for afternoon tea at a swanky hotel, and we loved it as a gift. I have stolen the idea and done the same for some other couples since. It was a lovely date we wouldn't otherwise have had.

Yes garden!! A Victoria plum tree? A pretty cherry tree that will blossom?