Planning a wedding whilst TTC?

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Hi everyone,

I am 38, recently engaged and have just come home from a holiday in Spain, where we viewed potential wedding venues "just for fun" and have fallen in love with one of the options. It has limited availability due to it's popularity, but is free next year in June. Decision needs to be made quickly to lock it in.

I am also recently turned 38 and have been TTC with my partner since January with no luck yet. Considering my age, we are undergoing fertility tests, preliminary results are that my AMH has fallen significantly since last check at 35 so obviously enough, time is of the essence. I've no idea if we will be lucky enough to conceive naturally, or what will transpire in the next few months but that is Priority Number One right now. Temping, OPKs, all the usual stuff is underway.

But then there's this wedding business. I really want to get married in this Spanish location and I really don't want to delay, especially if we end up having long term fertility issues and I don't get pregnant and now have delayed my wedding indefinitely.

I know it's a question that no-one can answer except myself and my partner, but I wondered if anyone here was in a similar situation and what decision you made?

I'm 37 and my partner proposed new years eve last year, I was pregnant at the time so we planned to get married spring 2024 after having the baby. But unfortunately the pregnancy ended in a miscarriage so we decided to get married this autumn. We're still TTC, I wouldn't mind being pregnant on my wedding day because I feel we don't have time to waste. It's only 5 months to the wedding now, if I were to get pregnant now hopefully I'd still fit in my dress!

It is a personal decision and good luck with your TTC journey.

Hi there, thanks for your reply and very sorry about your miscarriage.

I think I feel the same way as you - there's no time to waste, but I don't want to put off getting married either. The reality is that the destination wedding would just be a blessing ceremony, and we'd need to do all the registry office at home before then - which we'd do anyway, pregnant or not pregnant.

It's just so hard to make a call on whether we book in a wedding a year from now, allow people to book their flights etc and face potentially having to cancel all of that...I don't love the idea of being pregnant on my wedding day in Spain, but I guess that'd be a blessing in the wider scheme of things.

Thanks for your insights and the best of luck with your wedding and the ongoing TTC! Hopefully good news for you soon.

If i were in your shoes, i would plan a wedding for the UK and make it this year