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Wedding dress advice

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Buttons86 · 07/05/2023 12:43

Hi all

I am bridesmaid and the bride is having dress regret and looking for some advice. She has gone for the Amber dress by Suzanne Neville. The dress is gorgeous but it seems to have been very popular particularly on social media. The bride ordered the dress a wile ago and the wedding was postponed to later this year and she is now upset that it has a production line feel to it, she won’t feel special in it and it has been overdone. She has time to sell it and get another dress which she has mentioned. I’m not really sure what to say to her to help in this situation!

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Pieceofpurplesky · 07/05/2023 12:57

I think that 99% of people who see the dress in real life or on social media will have no clue and not care where the dress came from. The other 1% need to get a life outside of Instagram.

But that's just my opinion and she should have a dress she feels comfortable in.

Cockle1234 · 07/05/2023 13:02

I'm a bride to be and thought I'd completed the Internet with wedding dresses. I've just googled this one, never heard of it and don't recognise it at all.

CreamTeaThievery · 07/05/2023 13:06

I haven't seen this dress and I have been shopping for wedding dresses this year.

I thought it was going to be the strapless column dress with a split that seems to be everywhere at the moment.

The dress your bride has picked is really elegant and classy.

QueSyrahSyrah · 07/05/2023 13:07

Just googled it too, as the PP I thought I'd seen them all (we got married last year) but I've never seen that one 🤷🏻‍♀️

Not to be unkind, but is your friend getting married to get married, or for Instagram? Who does she think will a) notice or b) care about an apparently popular dress? If it's the people at the wedding she's inviting the wrong people. If it's the people on the internet, give her head a wobble.

Rotormotor · 07/05/2023 13:09

Unless one is actually getting married, people have no interest in wedding dresses. No one will know what’s popular or not. They won’t care.

FormerlyPathologicallyHappy · 07/05/2023 13:11

Don’t say anything, it’s her wedding dress it has to be her choice.

googledidnthelp · 07/05/2023 13:13

I'm getting married this year, never heard of it or seen it and doesn't even look familiar after googling it.

Unicorn2022 · 07/05/2023 13:21

Tell her she's being daft, she should wear her dress with pride and look amazing in it, and what she has is called frequency illusion or red car syndrome.

inappropriateraspberry · 07/05/2023 14:07

I doubt any of the guests will have seen the dress before. She's likely seen it a lot because she's reading wedding blogs, following dress designers etc. She's in a wedding bubble that none of the guests are in! And even if they had seen someone else in the dress, she'll wear it differently, the whole wedding and feel will be unique to her and her husband.
I googled the dress and only 3 weddings come up in images, the rest are in bridal shops, on models etc.

ALittleBitAlexa · 07/05/2023 14:27

I'm getting married next month and love wedding fashion, Suzanne Neville etc, and I've not seen this dress a lot. Agree she's seeing it a lot because she's looking for it. Howeverrr, I'm onto my second dress because the first one I bought just didn't feel right and I am so much happier with the one I'm wearing now. If she has time and can afford it, I'd encourage her to book an appointment at a boutique to try other dresses. I think that's the only way she'll be able to put the 'what ifs' to bed. But, gorgeous dress and not overdone at all.

ALittleBitAlexa · 07/05/2023 14:29

Also to add - if she thinks she can sell it and use the money to buy another dress she's probably in for a shock. Anyone who buys it (and it's not easy to resell wedding dresses) will likely pay a fraction of what she paid. So only encourage her to look for other dresses if it is easily affordable.

Crabbity · 07/05/2023 14:32

I will admit that I have seen a bride marry in this particular dress recently but it only sticks in my mind because it’s quite possibly one of the most beautiful wedding dresses I’ve ever seen and I’m sure she will look astonishing in it. It’s such a classic too that it will be utterly timeless.

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Buttons86 · 07/05/2023 16:05

Thanks for all your comments. I think it is down to the fact she is looking for it and has gone on a bit of a spiral/Instagram trawl.

I was worried I was being a bit unsympathetic/useless….I got married in covid and my main concern was the wedding going ahead so I didn’t end up worrying about this type of thing.

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Leannemc79 · 27/01/2024 11:05

Not sure how to use this at all I’m a bit of a dinosaur 🙈 . I am after advice regarding wedding veil . I have my dress and I’m undecided if I should wear a veil or not . I do want to for pictures etc , but fear I may be too old , it’s not a big wedding , venue is beautiful but will only be a max of 50 guests . Second wedding for us both . I am 44 , attached pic of me in my dress when I bought from the shop , any advice greatly appreciated .

Schoolrunmumbun · 27/01/2024 11:25

I got my wedding dress from vinted this week, I love it!

I saw some veils there never worn/ still had tags saying £300 for sale for £30. You could order one and try it OP. Have what you want, feel fab and have a lovely day!

ALittleBitAlexa · 27/01/2024 11:43

Leannemc79 · 27/01/2024 11:05

You need to start your own thread, but yes - wear the veil. It's your one chance to, ever. Don't have any regrets. I had a dress with similar silhouette and went for a cathedral length veil with 3d flowers and pearls

geoger · 27/01/2024 11:57

Plz tell your friend to stick with her dress choice - the one she’s picked is beautiful

Leannemc79 · 27/01/2024 11:59

I’m working on how to remove it , I am new here 🙈

KalamazooZoo · 27/01/2024 12:09

It’s a classy lovely dress.
When I was choosing a dress I walked about and tried sitting etc to see how comfy it was. I would advise brides to do this, my mate has a hefty bust and her strapless dress meant she was in danger of giving everyone an absolute eyeful.

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