£ etiquette for hen do

[TheRowdy3]

I am shocked by mounting costs. Is the current etiquette that the bride to be does not pay or contribute anything?

Love the bride, totally happy to pay for my contribution for accomodation and travel costs. This is one of three hens the hen has organised.

I feel for the people trying to organising fun times, I just cannot afford the escalating costs. My budget is obviously different to theirs.

IMO in planning yes budget needs to be discussed & agreed and divvied up. I hope you get a satisfactory outcome. I do think the bride should pay her contribution,of course
I imagine most groups gravitate to what everyone will like,want and is on budget.

It is the done thing but I wouldn't be comfortable with it myself. I've been part of hen dos where it the costs have mounted up and it's all IMO on pointless tat like contributing to stupid activities like sports days, cock straws and masks of the groom's face! 😂Bloody annoys me! IMO hen does should be meaningful to the bride but they've become commercialised like everything wedding...

I am having a tiny hen do. Spa with two of my bridesmaids. I don't want to be a hypocrite and it is ME who to do this, so I am paying for us all.

I think that it shouldn't be expected for people to pay for the bride, or to go to these stupid hen dos lasting days and costing 100s of pounds.

I do however think it is fine for people to contribute money if they want to.

I haven't been a hen where the bride has contribute nothing to any of the hen dos if they are expensive holdiays etc -that's a stretch

Meal out - I'd expect to pay towards the bride.

Abroad - no way.

The bride never pays in my group of friends.. but we are all on a similar budget.. I don't think anyone minds, it's usually not much once it's split between everyone.
But, wouldn't mind if someone didn't want to chip in, absolutely fair enough.