We've been together for a few years and planned to get married this year. We'd originally wanted to keep it small and informal, as we've both been married before and had the 'big white wedding' thing - but we now have children (and no parents volunteering to fund anything second time around - undrstandably!) so we're in a very different place than when we were young and responsibility-free.
I'd initially felt a bit embarrassed to be getting married again and worried too much about what others might think of me having another wedding, so we were planning something completely the opposite - a registry office ceremony followed by a small meal - but the closer it got, the more I felt sad about it not being more of a celebration. So what if we've been married before? We deserve a second chance at love and have nothing to be ashamed of, right? So we're pushing the date back to give us more time to save for something we'll both be happy with - still nothing huge and expensive, but a day we can enjoy and have fun with those closest to us.
However, my future MIL keeps making remarks essentially saying nobody cares about second marriages, that we shouldn't put much effort into the wedding and 'waste' money, and not to expect people to want to sit through another ceremony when they've heard it all before... and it's really starting to irritate me.
My FH would never say anything to her about her remarks, quite often she says them when he's not around, but even if he was there he wouldn't defend our decisions as he never stands up to her. I completely understand that people are entitled to their own opinions, but it feels really unsupportive and belittling to for her to keep saying these things, and I don't understand why she can't just be happy for us.
I don't want to cause arguments or fall out with anyone, but is there any way I can broach the subject to ask her to keep her negative opinions to herself?