Eloping did you tell parents?

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Did you tell your parents you were eloping? Were they angry? I'm going to tell my Mum but I'm sure she'll be annoyed.

In laws were absolutely fine, in fact happy for us. My dad and step mum eloped so I knew they would be OK. My mum was not happy. Said I was selfish ect. We went ahead anyway. She came round. It was the perfect wedding for us. Just us, a photographer and her friend as our witnesses. Good luck

Hi
Thank you.
I'm glad you had a perfect day.
My fiancé's parents have both passed away. I know my Mum will be ok but I know silently she'll be p*ssed off.
But it's our day. And not hers.
Just need to get the courage to tell her.
Thanks again

Can I ask why you are thinking of telling her beforehand ?

If you want it to be just the two of you, isn't the whole point of eloping that you slip away and no-one knows ?
By telling someone, you are inviting comment really - bit like discussing your baby name with all and sundry beforehand.

You already think it will make her sad, wouldn't it be better to say "Mum, we got married last week. We didn't want a fuss and so the two of us just went and did it with no-one else there".
Hopefully she will congratulate you, but if she doesn't you will be able to calmly say "Well, it's done now", and then avoid any drama.

My dad always said he would thank me for doing it, my mum said she would be devastated. So I told me parents they asked could mine and my fiancés parents go I said yes but we are going now and all 6 of us went. It was perfect

No we told them afterwards. I thought they’d be angry but actually they now say it was the best idea. Saved a fortune on an expensive wedding

My parents famously eloped, my DM didn't tell her DM until a year after!

Then DH and I eloped and my DM was gutted!

Go figure!

We loved our perfectly private day withjusy our DD and a close friend each to witness.
Do it.

No, the word " elope" means that you run away and get married in secret!

@UsingChangeofName

You are completely right. The thing is my fiancée has told people at his work and that just made me feel guilty that they know and not my mum. Again, you are right.

@Saltywalruss

I've just realised. Whoops I thought it just meant when it was just the two of you so I do apologise.

Thanks all. I can't wait, I know it's right for us. I'll have a think 🤔

Me and now ex-DH went abroad and got married without telling anyone at all. The hotel provided witnesses so that was fine. We just told everyone when we got home. Nobody was offended.