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Hen do ideas

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Nellie1027 · 31/01/2023 08:35

Myself and my other friend can't attend a friends hen do due to childcare and money issues. We have all agreed it would be nice to do something just the 3 of us and the bride mentioned maybe going for dinner. I wanted to do something more than that so found this great place that does afternoon tea and then a lovely cocktail bar for afterwards we could go to.

I've just spoken to my other friend to ask what she will be able to do and she has said she won't be able to afford anything. Her money situation isn't great right now so I completely understand. So my plans are out the window. She has mentioned doing something in one of our gardens to celebrate.

How do I throw a small hen do in a garden with extremely limited budget? I think I'll end up footing the bill on this so can't really be more than £50-75. We all live 45 minutes away from each other in opposite directions so lots of alcohol isn't going to be possible.

Any ideas?!

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BarrelOfOtters · 31/01/2023 08:41

If there’s no childcare involved I'd look for somewhere lovely you can all get to, with a view, and have a picnic. You can do a lovely non alcoholic picnic for that money….

itsnote · 31/01/2023 08:42

Can't they stay over?

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Nellie1027 · 31/01/2023 08:47

@BarrelOfOtters very true, I can probably think of somewhere midway between us all

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Nellie1027 · 31/01/2023 08:48

@itsnote they are always welcome at mine but my other friend will have her small baby so probably won't want to. The bride is obviously more than welcome but I will have my little baby to look after at night so might not be as restful!

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itsnote · 31/01/2023 09:12

Honestly then, I wouldn't bother. It's definitely going to be more hassle than it's worth and you'll be able to celebrate at the wedding.

Your other friend clearly doesn't want to, has a baby and can't afford it. You're on a limited budget and have a baby you think will be unsettled in the night and the hen has got her other hen do and wedding to think about.

I hate zoom but why not set aside 2 hours on a Friday or Saturday night and get a bottle of something each. Time is what's important here and it'll be nice to have a catch up. Make sure the babies are kept well away by their dads.

MaverickGooseGoose · 31/01/2023 09:13

itsnote · 31/01/2023 09:12

Honestly then, I wouldn't bother. It's definitely going to be more hassle than it's worth and you'll be able to celebrate at the wedding.

Your other friend clearly doesn't want to, has a baby and can't afford it. You're on a limited budget and have a baby you think will be unsettled in the night and the hen has got her other hen do and wedding to think about.

I hate zoom but why not set aside 2 hours on a Friday or Saturday night and get a bottle of something each. Time is what's important here and it'll be nice to have a catch up. Make sure the babies are kept well away by their dads.

I agree with this

OneHundredOtters · 31/01/2023 13:45

Find a local bakery/cafe that will do you an afternoon tea selection. I doubt it will be more than £12-15pp

littlegingerone · 09/02/2023 08:23

If this was me and my friends we'd have a sleepover, with the babies, pj's, party food, few decorations, put a Spotify play list together, play some daft games, maybe do a little Mr and Mrs. If you generally all have a nice time together you won't have to do anything extravagant to have a fun night.

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