Hi all
I am getting married in December and my fiancés friends are starting to plan his stag weekend for this summer.
It will likely be a weekend away somewhere with all of his friends plus his “brother in laws” on his side (sisters partners). He hasn’t mentioned inviting my brother.
By background they get along but aren’t close at all and rarely see eachother as we live in different cities. My brother is pretty anxious and shy and also struggles with his confidence and usually has to have a good drink to come out of his shell. Therefore I don’t know if he would want to go anyway, especially as he wouldn’t know anyone but I also don’t want his feelings hurt as the other BILs are invited. I’m torn as I know my fiancé would probably feel like he has to look after him all weekend and as I said they aren’t close.
Also, to add that my fiancé will also probably do a “home” stag with friends plus family such as his stepdad, and my dad, so my brother would of course be invited to this one (and more likely to go as he will have my dad there).
Should I ask him first if he would even want to go to the weekend away before mentioning it to fiancé?
I am inviting fiancé sister and brother (gay) as we are quite close and I see them often and they are part of my bridal party. I guess I just keep comparing and of course love and care about my brother and don’t want him hurt. I haven’t mentioned any of the above to my fiancé yet as I don’t want to put him in an awkward position or make him feel guilty - and as I said he would be invited to the “home” stag night with dads.
Thanks