Children

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We are getting married later this year and we have young children. 3 year old & 9 month old.

Who looked after your children in the morning whilst you were getting ready? Or did they spend the morning with you? (Brides)

Did they sit with you both during the wedding breakfast or with family?
And finally where did they sleep on the night of the wedding ?

Just need to start making arrangements for them when we will both be busy so I know they are safe and being looked after.

I would love any advice from those that have the same experience.

Thanks!

I've not had experience but why can't they be with their DF whilst he gets ready?

DD was 18M. I quickly got myself ready first thing while she pottered/stomped around and DH kept an eye on her. Her grandparents then looked after her in the morning while DH and I had photos taken (we had an…unusual wedding set up with a separate ceremony and reception. I’m talking about the reception here).

During the reception we put her on the top table between her two grandmothers, all three being delighted by the arrangement. She also ran around the reception with me, DH, grandparents, aunties and uncles and friends keeping an eye on her.

Out reception ended at 5pm. We went home in the evening and she slept in her own cot with us in the house (no honeymoon).

It was a brilliant day, pretty relaxed. But to do that I had to give up on some of the classic wedding things like spending all morning doing hair and makeup with bridesmaids, going away for the night etc. Still makes me a bit wistful but a compromise that kept DD happy and calm. To have the full bridal experience (and there is nothing wrong with wanting that), you’ll need childcare of some sort on hand. It’s good to have some calmer parts of the day for them, even if it means they don’t join in everything, and sticking to routine where possible.

We had a 2 year old when we got married. Morning with both of us, then my mum while we got ready. Then we hired a wedding nanny for the wedding/reception, who baby sat in our hotel room during the later evening til we went to bed. Was brilliant, as we didn't need to worry about nappies/food/entertainment or worrying about relatives staying sober but they were still able to be part of our wedding.