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Wedding Reception

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Anon7806 · 07/01/2023 21:23

Hi everyone, I’m just looking for some advice 🤞 We get married in the summer and our LO will be 2. He’s currently waiting for an ASD diagnosis. He hates crowds & loud noises, we can’t even go to soft play etc, therefore the evening reception is going to prove difficult for him to be a part of. He goes to bed every night at 7pm and if kept up longer than this he gets very cranky and eventually inconsolable. Tiredness mixed with lots of people and music will be completely overwhelming for him and I’m really struggling to find a solution to make it easier for him to be there with us 😢 my parents and my FIL are the only people we trust to look after him (and the only people he feels comfortable with) and I feel it’s unfair for me to ask either of them to take him home to bed and them not to enjoy the evening. It’s really making me rethink our decision to have a reception at all and possibly just have the ceremony & wedding breakfast? Although both of our families and our friends love to party so I know they’ll be disappointed. Thoughts on this?

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UsingChangeofName · 07/01/2023 22:58

I would suggest you find a babysitter.
Not just for the evening of your wedding, but before, so you get to know them a little, first, and he gets used to them.

MarmiteCoriander · 08/01/2023 00:01

As the suggester above said- get a baby sitter he is used to beforehand, get him used to another relative (younger cousin who can put him to bed or niece/nephew OR have the wedding very early so closer to lunch time and everyone is gone by 7pm to put your son to bed yourself.

RAL96 · 09/01/2023 11:28

My little one will be nearly 2 at our wedding and if the venue allows us to, we are planning to hire a nanny to look after him during the wedding breakfast and then put him to bed and watch him during the evening (about 7:30/8pm)

Twizbe · 09/01/2023 11:32

Agree, find a baby sitter now that you can work up to using on the day.

Does he go to any childcare setting at the moment? Sometimes nursery workers will do babysitting on the side as well.

Mrsjayy · 09/01/2023 11:38

I think looking for a baby sitter Is a good idea introduce them.slowly and see how it goes then see if they will look after then at the wedding he might even sleep in his buggy till home time. Who would be looking after him in the day time at the wedding?

ILovePigsInBlankets · 09/01/2023 11:38

Does your son go to nursery or a child minder? We 'hired' DS's key worker from nursery to look after him at a wedding reception- we were staying overnight so had a room booked - she took him to the room to chill out and then put him to bed and sat with him till the party was over.

Notallislost · 09/01/2023 19:56

We looked into a wedding nanny for ourselves, which we still might use. They specialise in watching children at weddings and can do over nights. You could put the little one down if there's accommodation on site and they supervise while they sleep. We were quoted £450 for a nanny to come from 6pm to 10am the next morning for upto 4 children. Obviously they can do during the day too and distract, take your son away if it gets to over whelming for him.
A bit of an expense but would be worth it to be able to relax and enjoy your evening.

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