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What do you think to this ring?

39 replies

KimberleyTaylor · 13/12/2022 23:29

My sisters boyfriend wants to propose to her, he doesn’t have a huge budget and has sent me a picture of this ring he has seen but I’m not sure! Opinions please?
not sure about it being lab created either

What do you think to this ring?
OP posts:
OneHundredOtters · 13/12/2022 23:34

He could get a much nicer non branded ring from somewhere other than Pandora.

Notjustamum28 · 13/12/2022 23:35

not a massive fan to be honest, but then again im not generally a Pandora fan either! for that money i think he could get something nicer, i suppose it all depends on the bride to bes style!

TooHotToRamble · 13/12/2022 23:35

I'm not keen on the style. It seems something you'd either love or hate. If he's sure she'd like that style then that's ok. If he's not sure he should maybe go for something classic. Something classic would also not date which this one might.

Not sure also about the lab created diamond. But obviously there is an affordability issue and it's more about whether she would care than what I think! 😀 I'd rather have a smaller "real" diamond or other stone I think. Emeralds are cheaper and beautiful for example.

GroggyLegs · 13/12/2022 23:35

Is she into pandora jewellery? Id imagine you pay a fair amount for the brand name & could maybe get something better quality and less mass produced from a jeweller.

But that aside, if he wants to surprise her, unless she's spoken with you about her preferences, I think you have to let him go for it.

SassyPants87 · 13/12/2022 23:37

There’s nothing wrong with it being lab created it’s just much more ethical and soon enough all diamonds will be lab created. You also wouldn’t even be able to tell the difference between lab and natural diamond.

although I’m not a huge fan of the design of this ring

RandomMess · 13/12/2022 23:37

Warren James sells inexpensive diamond engage rings, lab manufactured etc.

Epicstorm · 13/12/2022 23:37

Sorry but I don’t like the style. Hate rings with twists etc that are not symmetrical. They often don’t sit well with a traditional wedding ring either.

MaggieFS · 13/12/2022 23:38

I'm not keen on the style but that's a very personal thing.

I agree with pp, buying from a brand will be relatively poor value for money.

I'm not yet sure what to make of lab diamonds, but amongst the yoof in my office of proposing age they are seen as marvellous and perfectly acceptable because they are more eco and cheaper.

abmac95 · 13/12/2022 23:39

Is Pandora not rodium plated rather than real white gold? I don't think it will last

HeddaGarbled · 13/12/2022 23:41

I think she should be allowed to choose her own ring, since she’ll be stuck with it for the rest of her life. I’d suggest he propose without a ring and then go and choose one together.

Pieceofpurplesky · 13/12/2022 23:42

Propose with a haribo ring and let her choose! I can imagine the thread on here .. 'he only went and bought me a bloody Pandora ring'

fatsinglereadytomingle · 13/12/2022 23:42

Not keen, he's mainly paying for the brand.
I don't own any Pandora jewellery but I've heard a lots of complaints about the quality that would make me think twice.

The setting would make wedding rings a difficult choice too.

What's your sisters style?

Letsrunabath · 13/12/2022 23:45

I had the cheapest tiniest cubic zirconia ring for my engagement, 32 years later I still cherish that it was our commitment to each other. I’ve now got my mothers 2 c engagement ring but only because I’ve lost my lovely mother. I have one on each hand and they both mean the world to me.

LightDrizzle · 13/12/2022 23:50

I think most women prefer to choose the ring together. He can propose without one!

It’s really hard to choose for someone else, - or even for yourself without trying on! I thought I wanted a round halo with diamond band but it didn’t look right on my hand but a plain solitaire did.

SkylightSkylight · 13/12/2022 23:50

I haven't looked into all of them, but it's £85 on Etsy & various price points from £250 to £000's.

ibthinknthe ring is quite sweet actually. If he can't afford a lot, I think he's better buying something like this, that isn't pretending it's something it's not

avamiah · 13/12/2022 23:55

LightDrizzle · 13/12/2022 23:50

I think most women prefer to choose the ring together. He can propose without one!

It’s really hard to choose for someone else, - or even for yourself without trying on! I thought I wanted a round halo with diamond band but it didn’t look right on my hand but a plain solitaire did.

Yes, totally agree with you .

She needs to pick one herself and try it on.

Suprima · 13/12/2022 23:57

ah another man who believes Pandora is the only shop for jewellery

cortisolqueen · 13/12/2022 23:58

I really like it Grin

Iknowhim · 13/12/2022 23:58

Pieceofpurplesky · 13/12/2022 23:42

Propose with a haribo ring and let her choose! I can imagine the thread on here .. 'he only went and bought me a bloody Pandora ring'

This!
Unless he's very sure of her style then let her choose her own.

That's a style of ring lots won't like, I hate it.

I would also not want a pandora ring.

DramaAlpaca · 14/12/2022 00:02

No, not Pandora. Just no. Not classy at all.

It's better to let her choose her own ring, especially if she's at all fussy (like me). I'd have no problem with a lab created gemstone, much more ethical.

chantico · 14/12/2022 00:08

I recommend that he buys either a novelty ring to propose with , or some other piece of jewellery (maybe a necklace) as a keepsake of the (ringless) proposal. Either/both will be treasured.

But a engagement ring is on your finger for years (possibly the whole of the rest of your life) so she needs to choose it.

There might be a style she's always had a secret hankering for, there might be styles she simply doesn't want to wear.

It doesn't matter if the whole of MN says somethings fab if she hates it, or that something's naff if she loves it.

TL:DR - mark the actual proposal some other way, then buy a ring together.

worstusernameeverx2 · 14/12/2022 00:08

I don't like it at all

worstusernameeverx2 · 14/12/2022 00:09

TooHotToRamble · 13/12/2022 23:35

I'm not keen on the style. It seems something you'd either love or hate. If he's sure she'd like that style then that's ok. If he's not sure he should maybe go for something classic. Something classic would also not date which this one might.

Not sure also about the lab created diamond. But obviously there is an affordability issue and it's more about whether she would care than what I think! 😀 I'd rather have a smaller "real" diamond or other stone I think. Emeralds are cheaper and beautiful for example.

It is a real diamond though

ODFOx · 14/12/2022 00:13

14 carat gold?
American then?
I don't dislike the style but a UK hallmark and uk gold standard would be worth more second hand, if value for money is a concern.
For a similar price there are loads of 18ct or even platinum 0.4-0.5ct preloved diamond solitaires on line.

TooHotToRamble · 14/12/2022 00:44

worstusernameeverx2 · 14/12/2022 00:09

It is a real diamond though

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That's why I put it in inverted commas....