Should I cancel reception venue?

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I am due to get married in February. I have no friends, my partners family live in Canada and are not able to make it, my dads side of the family have several awkward ongoing feuds and family members who will almost certainly kick off after a few drinks. If I went ahead with wedding as planned it would be my mums sister and brother in law and their children plus partners present and a few of my partners friends. We’re funding this wedding ourselves and I’m currently working over 60 hours a week to pay for a reception that will have barely half the number of guest I told the venue initially and it all seems a bit silly. I would rather just get married in a registry office as I’m an introvert and hate attention anyway. I feel like everything has been left to me to sort out and so far it’s only been me saving for the wedding and booking everything. It’s not the my partner doesn’t care he’s just not as organised or forward thinking as me. What would you do? Cancel and just get married simply at the local registry office? The stress of working to pay for a wedding where hardly anyone will attend and sorting everything on my own is causing me to get migraines and heart palpitations….

Yep, I'd cancel. When was the last time someone worked their arse off for you?

Yes, simplify this whole thing. Get married at the town hall, have a party/dinner further down the line if/when it makes financial sense. That will work out so much cheaper in the long run, and a generous meal for friends and family has a different feel to a wedding reception, where you can feel very self conscious about a lack of extended family etc. Keep it simple, stick to a budget, if you're doing all the planning, pivot to something that better suits your tastes and preferences.

I’d cancel. Have the registry then a honeymoon and maybe a small garden party sometime next summer. Get your life back and think of what and who really matters.

Yes, cancel and have a smaller one

Cancel it and make alternative plans for just the two of you. Stay in a wonderful hotel for a couple of nights etc. No stress and absolute luxury for the two of you to start your marriage.

If you're not wanting a big party then don't have one. Cancel

God yes, who are you doing all this for, if not you and your fiance?

Do what makes you happy.

Thank you everyone for helping me see clearly and not feel so guilty about cancelling. ♥️

No guilt. It’s for you and your DP, and there are plenty of alternatives to mark the day and make memories. Best wishes.

I'd definitely cancel.
Get married and instead of a reception invite a select few for a meal.
Tell the others the party will be sometime next year (when it's all been forgotten about).

Absolutely. Your day. Enjoy it how you see fit.

Yes. Elope 💯