Selling wedding dress

happyharpy78 · 2022-08-21T07:07:47+00:00

Does anyone have any advice on selling a brand new wedding dress? My daughter has changed her mind on her dress and we now have a brand new dress, unaltered, still with tags, to resell. It is current season Morilee. I'm a bit apprehensive about selling such an expensive item online, wary about being scammed, and unsure how well it will sell in the first place so am looking for a bit of guidance from anyone with experience please!

fufflecake · 21/08/2022 08:42

Will the shop buy it back at a cheaper price?

gunnersgold · 21/08/2022 09:39

How long have you had it ? I would return it and see what they say . Would they give you credit against another dress or give you something .
If it's current season I'm sure it would sell online , just sell it as collect and PayPal and there won't be a problem .

I'm sure there are frees agencies but you would lose a cut !

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happyharpy78 · 21/08/2022 09:41

We collected it in June this year, it still has all its tags etc, she literally tried it on twice after collection.
I've put an email in to the shop to see what they say - fingers crossed!

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PotteringAlonggotkickedoutandhadtoreregister · 21/08/2022 09:43

Honestly? If she’s old enough to get married and old enough to change her mind about such an expensive item and not be told just to suck it up (like you would with young children!) then she’s old enough to sort it out herself. It’s not up to you to sell it. It’s not up to you to worry about how much she gets. And it’s definitely not up to you to facilitate another dress!

weddingwaiting · 21/08/2022 09:47

I agree with @PotteringAlonggotkickedoutandhadtoreregister but stillwhite.com is an option x

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happyharpy78 · 21/08/2022 09:47

Thanks @PotteringAlonggotkickedoutandhadtoreregister but I don't need or want advice on my parenting skills. She has facilitated her own second dress. I am just trying to help my daughter as I think most parents would and am looking for a bit of advice on reselling a dress on her behalf.

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GlueyMooey · 21/08/2022 09:56

PotteringAlonggotkickedoutandhadtoreregister · 21/08/2022 09:43

Honestly? If she’s old enough to get married and old enough to change her mind about such an expensive item and not be told just to suck it up (like you would with young children!) then she’s old enough to sort it out herself. It’s not up to you to sell it. It’s not up to you to worry about how much she gets. And it’s definitely not up to you to facilitate another dress!

What a strangely snarky response! The OP just asked how they go about selling the dress. Sounds like it touched a nerve with you?

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happyharpy78 · 21/08/2022 10:02

Thanks @GlueyMooey - have to say I was a bit surprised too!

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fufflecake · 21/08/2022 10:05

Woah! Bit much @PotteringAlonggotkickedoutandhadtoreregister

mondaytosunday · 21/08/2022 10:51

Wow. There was a thread about an autistic boy wanting to go to uni and the OP was just asking for some pointers. Immediately she got a 'if he's old enough to go to uni he can sort it all himself'.
Aren't parents allowed to help their kids these days?
I was once told that my 12 year old shouldn't rely on me to help him (his dad passed away at six), and I retorted that I hope my children will ALWAYS be able to come for me for help, be they 12, 20 or 40.
If altered to fit the dress shop is unlikely to take it back, so perhaps a dress agency?

fufflecake · 21/08/2022 10:52

mondaytosunday · 21/08/2022 10:51

Wow. There was a thread about an autistic boy wanting to go to uni and the OP was just asking for some pointers. Immediately she got a 'if he's old enough to go to uni he can sort it all himself'.
Aren't parents allowed to help their kids these days?
I was once told that my 12 year old shouldn't rely on me to help him (his dad passed away at six), and I retorted that I hope my children will ALWAYS be able to come for me for help, be they 12, 20 or 40.
If altered to fit the dress shop is unlikely to take it back, so perhaps a dress agency?

Yes I always want my child to know they can ask for help

kegofcoffee · 21/08/2022 10:57

I reckon your best bet is to ask the shop if they'll buy back and part the cost. Maybe even for store credit, assuming there is something else she likes.

Be warned though, second hand wedding dresses, even unworn, have such a low resell value. I'd be surprised if they even offered you 50% of the cost.

fufflecake · 21/08/2022 11:02

kegofcoffee · 21/08/2022 10:57

I reckon your best bet is to ask the shop if they'll buy back and part the cost. Maybe even for store credit, assuming there is something else she likes.

Be warned though, second hand wedding dresses, even unworn, have such a low resell value. I'd be surprised if they even offered you 50% of the cost.

Yes I wouldn't get your hopes up of getting much back, I imagine it's like a new car, once it's taken out the shop the resale price plummets. Especially with the emotional side of a wedding dress.

PotteringAlonggotkickedoutandhadtoreregister · 21/08/2022 11:03

i can only apologise if you think it was too much. And yes, children should always be able to ask for help. But sometimes, maybe that help should be

”you are going to get peanuts back for this dress. You loved it when you first tried it on, and it’s not changed. This is about a marriage, not a wedding, and wearing a different white dress to the one you’ve got doesn’t alter that. So what would you rather have? What would you rather do? What else could you spend the money on?”

and then, if you still want to change your dress then it’s not, as the OP said, that “we’ve got a dress to sell”, it’s “you’ve got a dress to sell”, because if you’re hell bent on doing it, you need to deal with it yourself.

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happyharpy78 · 21/08/2022 11:08

You know nothing about my family @PotteringAlonggotkickedoutandhadtoreregister and you particularly don't know about the non- frivolous reason she changed her mind about the dress. I'm not going to go into it here as no doubt you would proffer your uninvited opinion on that too. Suffice to say, it wasn't just a whim and as her parent, I was happy to support her in her decision to purchase a second dress. I came on here to ask for practical advice and I am grateful to those posters who have given me that.

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GlueyMooey · 21/08/2022 11:10

@PotteringAlonggotkickedoutandhadtoreregister You second post is just as weird as your first post. I think you need to read the OPs opening post again. All she did was ask for advice about the best way of selling a 2nd hand wedding dress. That's it! It was a simple straightforward question. There is literally nothing in the OPs posts that suggests she is fussing or is over-involved in her daughters wedding. Your posts are really odd.