no friends or family for my side of the wedding

[Poppie9832]

This probably gets brought up a lot but I feel so alone.

I have no friends since I had children. I've tried lots of different ways to make fiends but I'm ignored after a few weeks, leaves me thinking what have I done wrong?

I see my siblings occasionally but we're not as close anymore after mental health and physical health issues pushed me away from them due to them not fully understanding.

I have my mums support but she's not well herself. I asked for opinions on wedding dresses and responses were very negative and not constructive at all.

The image of having my side of the church empty breaks my heart.

Any thoughts or suggestions would be greatly appreciated x

Honestly just elope. So much less stressful.

First, would your family really not come even if you aren’t particularly close?

second, if you do have a traditional wedding, there is no reason to stick to the bride’s side and groom’s side. Just seat people. You are joining as a family and everyone is there to support both of you.

Mixing the seating even in the church is a good idea, thank you.

They may excuse themselves early, I just don't want to be embarrassed when I'm asked by his family "where's everyone got to?"

Our wedding is soon. It’s not huge, but I will have 4 people (2 family, 2 friends), and the other 35 people are dh family and a few joint friends. We will just have seats, no formal anything. Won’t have head table either

Are you getting married in a church you attend? If so, invite the congregation! If not, would you consider inviting your children's friends with their parents? Or... invite a whole load of Mumsnetters who live in your area!

I've found weddings are very much, don't pick a side but pick a seat these days.
Some even have a sign saying along the lines of the above.

The image of having my side of the church empty breaks my heart

As pps have said, you don't need to have "bride's side" / "groom's side" - just ask your ushers to ask people to fill up both sides from the front.

But that said, wouldn't family come to your wedding, even if you don't feel you are as close as you would like to be ?

I had one family member at my wedding. Religious differences and different countries prevented attendance for my lot.

DH had only family. No friends.

I invited friends and we asked everyone to mingle in the church.