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Speeches at small weddings?

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DancingUnderTheLights · 29/07/2022 15:33

Is it generally done? I'm just doing a registry office and then a private room in a restaurant for under 20 guests. I've never actually been to a small wedding like we're planning. I did think of saying a few things but reading example bride speeches is making me cringe lol. I know it's our wedding so we can do whatever. I'm just curious if it's that common. We'll probably just thank all the guests for coming and that'll be basically it.

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Lucy304 · 29/07/2022 15:47

We had 10 guests at our wedding and still did the traditional speeches - best man, father of the bride and finally the groom. It was lovely and didn't feel at all cringy. Having a small wedding was perfect for us and we loved every minute of it. Congratulations and enjoy your day, whatever you decide to do.

MrsU2022 · 14/08/2022 13:05

We had 14 of us and still did speeches. It was lovely and would probably have regretted not keeping the tradition if not! :)

Kite22 · 26/08/2022 23:59

Smallest wedding I have been to there were 11 of us.
They hadn't planned to do speeches, but one chap said he would like to propose a toast and he said a few words. The groom then said he would like to respond and said a few words too.
They were very heartfelt and it felt just right. I presume they had thought about them beforehand but neither had notes or anything.
I think it is right to thank everyone for coming (and probably for gifts and for well wishes).
I think it is right for everyone to get a chance to toast the happy couple.

I would ask your parents if they would like to say anything (as is the traditional way) and then, you know your guests - it might be the best man would like to, or it might be someone non-traditional like the mother of the groom would like to. Or maybe even on the day, someone "from the floor" as it were might like to.

TheLeadbetterLife · 27/08/2022 00:02

We did registry office and pub function room, about 75 guests. Only one speech, from me (my husband doesn’t do public speaking). I thanked our parents, people who came a long way, did a joke about Brexit (it was 2016) and encouraged people to mingle and have a good time. Though the open bar took care of that.

rocksonrocks · 27/08/2022 00:20

We're having a small wedding also and will still be doing speeches Smile

As an aside, it's your wedding! Toss what everyone else says and does and make your day special however you choose.

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