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Post-pandemic, post-partum wedding dress worries!

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HusbandtoBe · 19/07/2022 16:07

Hi all! I hope you're managing in the heat.

I come to this amazing group with a plea for help. My beautiful partner has come through a pandemic, a number of fairly serious health issues, and the not so-small matter of pregnancy, giving birth, and all that comes after, absolutely punching and with a smile on her face. She's been a tour de force and an inspiration. Very sadly, the idea of the point at which she should be most rewarded, feeling loved, special and comfortable on her wedding day is now really upsetting her.

She bought her dress in 2019 for a 2020 wedding, which we were lucky to be able to move back to this year. Having had a child since however her body shape is understandably different, in a multitude of ways she cannot control - wider hips, broader ribcage, and particularly her chest isn't, to her, what it once was. She's recently stopped breast feeding, and as I appreciate is natural, they are flatter than they were as they recover from that process. Whilst I tell her every day how stunning she is, her body has changed and that's alarming for her, particularly post her dress fitting. The cleavage on show she feels strongly requires support, and she feels deeply uncomfortable about how she'll look on the day.

The shop she bought the dress from are confident they can adjust it for her hips and ribcage, but for her chest they were only able to provide a starter for ten, advising that specialist bra's can be bought at John Lewis or similar and stitched in and that any further guidance should be researched online. This has proven to be really difficult, and it's getting her rather down.

So I wanted to reach out on here, is anyone able to very kindly provide any useful insights, places to look, people to ask? I realise the request is highly specific, but also in the throws of the world not likely to be unique.

Thanks so much in advance for any help you can provide!

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Honaloulou · 19/07/2022 16:30

It's a bit creepy that you're asking this. She can look for her own bras.

HusbandtoBe · 19/07/2022 18:02

You see creepy, I see supportive. She’s raising a newborn, replanning a wedding, this is upsetting her and I want to help solve it. Thanks for your input.

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YerAWizardHarry01 · 19/07/2022 18:12

Honaloulou · 19/07/2022 16:30

It's a bit creepy that you're asking this. She can look for her own bras.

What a mental comment.

OP I can offer no help as this isn't my expertise but your kind words about your wife to be and your want to help her are lovely. In my opinion anyway.

Slightlystressedbride · 20/07/2022 20:22

Take her + dress to rigby & peller

Toddlerteaplease · 20/07/2022 20:27

Not creepy, your love for your fiancé is the first thing that struck me about your post. Why shouldn't you ask for advice, since all you why is for her to feel confident on her wedding day. No advice though.

fallfallfall · 23/07/2022 06:23

I think bringing the dress to a lingerie shop would be a good idea. TV shows often reference needing “chicken cutlets”.
OR sell the dress and get another.

HusbandtoBe · 24/07/2022 08:30

Thank you so much guys! Really appreciate your help, and your kind words. That makes total sense, I’ll be making calls and getting a visit to a lingerie shop arranged for professional support. Will have a look into the chicken cutlets too beforehand!

Thanks again all.

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