Wedding invitation

[Firsttimemammi]

Hi all,

I have been invited to a wedding in 3 weeks time my baby is due the same week and I will be unable to attend. The wedding is for my co worker and his bride to be I have never met. I am married but it was just me invited to the wedding and I’m trying to figure out if I should send them a gift! Or money or just a card or should I wait till after my baby comes and worry about it then.

any opinions welcome because I really don’t know what to do here??

Are you invited to the whole wedding or just an evening?

I just decline I wouldn't send a gift personally.

I am invited to the full wedding.

What's the RSVP date on the invitiation? If you're within it I'd decline asap and wouldn't send gift, just a card at work if you feel like it, depending on your relationship with him.

If you've missed the RSVP date I would decine asap and then depending on what their gift registry is maybe send something small, as a nod. I wouldn't leave it until your have a newborn, you'll be too busy to be faffing with wedding presents at that point.

Still a week left on the RSVP anyway. I really didn’t even think I would be invited. I’m out of work at the moment due to pregnancy complications so I won’t see him before the big day but I thought because I was invited that some sort of gift or financial contribution would be expected you know?

You only give a gift if you actually attend or if you really want to.

I think only one person who couldn’t come to our wedding gave us a gift. We def didn’t expect it and I don’t think I would if I couldn’t make it. I’m aware this is different in other cultures or friendship groups though.

I'd decline and suggest that work do a wedding gift from everyone so you only have to bung in a fiver

I wouldn't expect a gift in their position! They've probably invited lots of Co workers without plus ones, and even if you're off work with complications / due to have a baby, might have wanted to invite you so you're not let out 😊 I'd send a polite RSVP and a card!

I would always send a gift of o had been invited

I'd send a card declining with a nice message wishing them a happy day, and mention that you can't attend because you and your husband are expecting a baby that week. No need to send a gift of any description.

Perhaps he invited everyone at work, did anyone else get an invite?

Did they really only give 3 weeks notice?

No but I thought due to pregnancy complications I was going to be induced today and forever hopeful I would have made it as there is a number of co workers who I get along great with also invited but baby is happy where they are for now 😁