Gutted have to wait longer for wedding!

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Not really sure the point of this post just feeling really disappointed and want to vent.

Fiance and I picked a venue we liked the look of (it’s a museum which is important context) and went to visit it yesterday. We absolutely fell in love and really feel it’s the right wedding venue for us.

Prior to our visit I checked dates with the wedding planning people to confirm we could have a date for summer 2023 and we left yesterday with a date for next summer all booked pending contract.

About half an hour later, while we were celebrating, they emailed us saying they were really sorry but she had made a mistake and they could only accommodate ceremonies next summer due to an exhibition.

She offered us a ceremony only and reception elsewhere close by or an alternative date. After lots of soul searching fiancé and I felt that the main thing we loved about the venue was the fact it was all done in house and there was the opportunity for guests to explore the museum after hours during the reception and the reception elsewhere would feel like a lesser version of what we wanted.

We don’t want to look at other venues because we absolutely fell in love with this one and it’s also more affordable than lots of venues in our area. So we are now looking at dates for March/April 2024 which just feels far too long away!

I’m so disappointed and feel like a twat for telling everyone we would be getting married next summer 😞

As someone who chose to postpone their wedding for 2 years rather than have a 15/30 person wedding during the height of the pandemic, I would say that if you have your heart set on this venue then it will be worth it. I'm so glad we waited and had the day we wanted. I've got no intention of doing it again and despite what MN will tell you the world didn't implode because I chose the big wedding over getting married quickly.

Spring weddings are wonderful, not too hot and there's some beautiful scented flowers around that time. Love the idea of an Easter egg hunt for the children. Try to stay upbeat about it - it'll be worth it in the end.

Thank you for this kind response. That’s kind of how I feel. I’m not really looking for solutions at this point because we have our heart set on the wedding we went to view yesterday. I’m more just trying to process and cope with my disappointment that it can’t happen as quickly as we would like.

Fiance is very good at being rational. He says we already own a house, live together, have know each other since we were 18. We have the rest of our lives together so what is an extra 7 months for the sake of a few extra months and getting the day we really want which we are only planning on doing once with each other.

It makes no difference to being married at all, this is about the wedding which, I know is unpopular on here but we want alongside getting to be married at the end of a really good event.

Yes look at it this way, and you have even more time to plan and decide what you'd like for flowers and stuff and can take your time to save etc. It sounds like it's the wedding venue you have your heart set on. On a practical level I would suggest getting your wills and any joint accounts sorted now in the meantime if you haven't already.

Having had my wedding delayed two years by Covid, I'm definitely in the camp of 'wait for the wedding you want'.

Don't compromise, honestly. I'm so, so glad that we waited for our big wedding rather than having a small one with 30 people.

I know your situation is different, but there's really nothing like having the wedding of your dreams - you'll regret it if you don't! Waiting isn't as bad as it sounds - it will come round and then it will be amazing.

I work in the industry and the average time from booking to wedding is 18 months. I bet you’d find that all the good suppliers would be fully booked for 2023 already so spend this time planning and locking in the important things early. The vast majority of enquiries I see coming in at the moment are 2024 and even 2025

The perfect place for you is worth the wait. You’ve now got enough time to do everything exactly as you’d like and you can enjoy planning the wedding for another year. I waited an extra year for my venue and it was well worth it. The time will fly by and then you’ll get your special day exactly where you want it.

Thank you that’s really kind. It’s so like me to rush to do The Thing quickly rather than properly because I’m such an impatient person so this has been quite hard but I completely agree we don’t want any nagging doubts about the day that we want in the way that we want it

2025 feels ridiculous I honestly can’t imagine waiting that long!

Yes I know in my heart that lots of people book their wedding for the year after next and have received save the dates to this end. I think I’m just struggling because my brother and SIL got married 5 months after getting engaged and now my parents think that’s a normal timeline and I think they think it’s a bit odd we have decided to wait 21 months 🙈

Thank you 🤗

I postponed and it's finally happening and while I had some moments where I was cursing myself for not getting married when we could only have six people, I'm glad. It's so much more special in the unique venue that I picked.

Book all the important stuff now, lock all those in if you can. After that you can do a little bit every month or so and by the time it does roll around, you'll be all organised. I got every single bit of my wedding prep done a full week before my date except for beauty stuff. Literally everything else was done and nobody can believe that with a few days to go, I'm zen as fuck