Gift for Groom

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A bit of a niche one, but my DP lost his father earlier this year very suddenly. I want to gift him something that will remind him of his dad/make sure he feels like his dad is there, as he is upset that his dad won’t see us get married. I don’t want it to be tacky. Has anyone got any ideas?

Have you a garden or did his dad have one? Buy a plant for the garden and use some flowers/leaves of it for your bouquet or buttonholes

Could you maybe ask his mum if there is something from their wedding that he could borrow for the occasion? Maybe she still has his dad’s cuff links that he wore on their wedding day (you never know). That wouldn’t be a gift from you but if you facilitated that with his mum it could be very meaningful.

if nothing like that seems to be possible then maybe you can ask his mum if his dad had a certain possession he really loved and then get your dh something in a similar vein to carry on the tradition - for example my dad was obsessed with having a Swiss Army knife in his pocket at all times (often caused a panic on the way to the airport for our family holidays as he realised he was still carrying it). Or maybe his dad had a certain brand/style of tie or shirt or walllet he always preferred, or he always liked to wear colourful socks under a sober coloured suit, or something like that.

I think the way you avoid it being tacky is by making it really connected.

you can also suggest the speeches acknowledge his beloved dad's absence and there is a separate toast to that effect for everyone to remember his dad and other family members who have passed but whose memory is still treasured.

and lastly - make sure his mum is looked after properly at the wedding so she doesn’t feel like a spare part on top table.

Could get a printed silk hankie ether a picture of him or his initials for him to have in his top pocket on the day

Did his Dad have a watch? If so could he wear it on his wedding day even if it was given to someone else maybe they would let you borrow it back for him to wear.

My Dad died before my graduation. My Mum hot one of those silver photo frames with a hinge on back holding two frames together and put a photo of Dad in a smart suit on one side and my graduation photo on other side. Could you do that for your stbdh?

Not sure if it's classed as tacky but it's rights for us ... my df father also died recently and he will be leave a huge gap at the wedding . We are having a nice picture of him framed and set on the table at the top of the isle where we will sign the resister .

I've often seen bride's have bouquet charms for lost loved ones. Maybe he could have a charm on his corsage

Not sure if it's classed as tacky but it's rights for us ... my df father also died recently and he will be leave a huge gap at the wedding . We are having a nice picture of him framed and set on the table at the top of the isle where we will sign the resister

So sorry for your loss. I've been to a couple of weddings where they've had a "Loved Ones Table" at the reception with photos and candles. I think it's a lovely thing to do

Trend Him have beautiful watches and you can get a photo printed on the watch. I think I have a discount code if you're interested.

We had a loved ones table with a photo and candle for my dad and grandfather. I also had a photo locket in my bouquet. Maybe a small photo of his father for his breast pocket?

There was also mention of my dad when toasting. There are several ways to say it if you google.

My husbands father was also missing from our wedding, we did things like had a 'in memory of' table with a candle and framed photos, the best man bought him a pocket watch and had a photo of his dad put inside it, we walked back up the aisle after being married to his dad's song. I also bought him a little silver token I found on etsy that came with a nice little message, it was something to have in his pocket and touch it when he was feeling nervous