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I’m so anxious about my wedding

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Mumof2beautifulbabies · 14/06/2022 01:42

i’m getting married in 6 weeks time. I’m excited but also so nervous and anxious too.
I don’t know why, I have 2 babies with my partner, one 6 months and one 2 years old, and I love him, but I can’t get over this feeling I have.
Has anyone else had this feeling?
In the meantime I am moving in 2 weeks, and I’ve also been offered a new job. Maybe it’s all the things together that are making me anxious, but I feel like I’m starting to loose control and I am turning to alcohol.
I then feel more anxious as my partner is getting annoyed, but it’s the only thing that helps me.
it’s currently 1.45am and I am still up drinking and don’t want to go to bed.

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Aquamarine1029 · 14/06/2022 01:57

You have a lot going on, of course you feel out of sorts. However, please believe me, alcohol is not helping you. It is making your anxiety significantly worse. Drinking alcohol is one of the worst things you can do when trying to manage your anxiety. You need to stop drinking right now before you create an even bigger problem for yourself, because you are on a very slippery slope.

Beebumble2 · 14/06/2022 09:47

As Aqua said try not to resort to alcohol, it will hamper clear thinking and also be very bad for health in the short and long term.
You have a great deal to contend with, making lists might help. It is a good way to see clear strategies. Have a separate lists for each event, listing the things you can do in order of importance and what can be left to other people or are out of your control anyway.
So, moving seems to be first list - are the children looked after on the moving day? That’s priory 1 to arrange, then leave it to Grandma or whoever.
Have you got packers booked? Then leave it to them. And so on. The lists might look long, but they will clear your head and there’s satisfaction in crossing things off.
Good luck, it will all work out, these things always do, but better without the alcohol.

Lemondrizzle77 · 14/08/2022 15:37

Is this dohbt about the man you are marrying or the nerves about the guests, big day etc with everything else going on? It sounds like the former..

garlicandsapphires · 18/08/2022 21:41

Yes see if you can separate the different issues. Are you worried about the wedding itself or the marriage?

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Mumof2beautifulbabies · 25/02/2023 01:37

Beebumble2 · 14/06/2022 09:47

As Aqua said try not to resort to alcohol, it will hamper clear thinking and also be very bad for health in the short and long term.
You have a great deal to contend with, making lists might help. It is a good way to see clear strategies. Have a separate lists for each event, listing the things you can do in order of importance and what can be left to other people or are out of your control anyway.
So, moving seems to be first list - are the children looked after on the moving day? That’s priory 1 to arrange, then leave it to Grandma or whoever.
Have you got packers booked? Then leave it to them. And so on. The lists might look long, but they will clear your head and there’s satisfaction in crossing things off.
Good luck, it will all work out, these things always do, but better without the alcohol.

Thank you for this. I realised I never replied. Your ideas actually really helped and I’m glad to say I’m now happy and healthy, and married 😄

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Beebumble2 · 25/02/2023 07:26

Congratulations to you both. So glad I could help 💐.

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