What is a reasonable cash wedding gift?

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TLDR: how much is a reasonable cash wedding gift towards a honeymoon fund?

My childhood friend is getting married at the weekend. She lives up north and we don’t see each other often but talk frequently so I’m travelling up (about 3 hours each way) and staying in a hotel for 2 nights. Originally I was just invited to the evening part but a few days ago she rang to say her aunt is unwell and won’t be attending so did I want to go to the whole day which of course I said yes thank you for thinking of me.

I’ve just bought my first house after breaking up with my long term boyfriend last year so financially things are tough. They've asked for money towards a honeymoon fund and initially I had budgeted £30 which I thought was reasonable as I was only going for the evening, now I’m invited to the whole event I don’t feel like this is enough but I’m paying £150 in hotel costs and a tank of fuel too to attend and I don’t have a lot more to spare. It’s not an open bar but I will have a meal included.

I know it’s not really about the money and she’s not materialistic like that but would you say is a reasonable amount to give in this situation?

TIA

If £30 is what you can afford, then do that. It's fine 🙂

I would usually give £50 for a whole day invite, £25 for an evening but if you can afford £30 then just give that. Especially given high travel costs.

It's minimum 100 here but I'm in Ireland.

Depends how close you are and really how much you can afford. A true friend wouldn’t expect to put you in debt for a gift

£30 is plenty.

Same here!

I'm in Ireland like Nowomenaroundeh and minimum would be 100 but I give 200.

£30 is fine. You're way overthinking it.

£30 - I was about to say you're obviously not in Ireland.

We were at a wedding last month. Dh's cousin. We gave £100. Our wanes were invited but they didn't go (teens) if they'd have gone I'd probably have felt obliged to give more.

Dh's parents gave them £150.

We're Irish too.

Though I remember my friend's ma used to say you give enough to cover your meals- I suppose it depends on the type of hotel in that case!

I meant to say, give what you can afford, your friend will just be glad to see you!

Just curious @Theblacksheepandme... so in Ireland it would be normal for the couple to receive €10,000+ in cash gifts for a wedding?

I suppose it depends in how many guests one has at their wedding. I just know if I'm invited to a wedding I give €200. Minimum in Ireland would be €100. I had a small wedding of 30 and received a lot from Irish guests. Substantially less from the English side.

Thank you for all your replies, I ended up giving £50 in total as my parents contributed £20 as they’ve known her since we were 7 but haven’t seen her since school days. It’s interesting to read about the different amounts given in different cultures, sounds like I need to make friends with some Irish folks for when I get married haha