No one will have fun.

MomOfCritters · 2022-05-15T01:25:39+00:00

Anyone else scared their wedding will be boring? We are having a small wedding, 50 guests including myself and our children and I'm so nervous our guests will be be bored!

KurriKawari · 15/05/2022 02:30

Most weddings are boring but tbh smaller, intimate weddings are always the better ones as your loved ones are there to see you get married and not so much there for the "fun".

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MomOfCritters · 15/05/2022 02:35

KurriKawari · 15/05/2022 02:30

Most weddings are boring but tbh smaller, intimate weddings are always the better ones as your loved ones are there to see you get married and not so much there for the "fun".

Thank you for this 😊 I'm honestly terrified we'll have the most boring wedding ever!

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rea2022x · 15/05/2022 02:55

I disagree somewhat with PP. most weddings I've been too are fun. Just ensure your guests are entertained and are engaging throughout. Congratulations when it comes. You'll have an amazing, magical day xx

MrsTerryPratchett · 15/05/2022 02:59

Short ceremony, short speeches.

Then it's just a party with nice people you know.

ShadowPuppets · 15/05/2022 03:04

I disagree with ‘weddings are generally boring’. So long as there’s decent food and a well stocked bar, I’m getting to sit down and have a nice meal with people I love, and probably a little drink and a dance too, with the excuse to get all dressed up, and the best bit is that it’s all in honour of watching a couple of people I care about celebrate their love for each other! Honestly I don’t think you need gimmicks and entertainment at a wedding. Spending time with people is the most valuable thing - surely the last couple of years has taught us that? When we got married my brief was that I wanted ‘all the people I loved in one room with loads of food, plenty of booze and some cracking music’ and I think everyone had a good time 😁I hope you have a fabulous day OP!

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MomOfCritters · 15/05/2022 03:06

ShadowPuppets · 15/05/2022 03:04

I disagree with ‘weddings are generally boring’. So long as there’s decent food and a well stocked bar, I’m getting to sit down and have a nice meal with people I love, and probably a little drink and a dance too, with the excuse to get all dressed up, and the best bit is that it’s all in honour of watching a couple of people I care about celebrate their love for each other! Honestly I don’t think you need gimmicks and entertainment at a wedding. Spending time with people is the most valuable thing - surely the last couple of years has taught us that? When we got married my brief was that I wanted ‘all the people I loved in one room with loads of food, plenty of booze and some cracking music’ and I think everyone had a good time 😁I hope you have a fabulous day OP!

Thank you! This is what I'm aiming for;

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mathanxiety · 15/05/2022 03:08

Are you serving booze?

Booze is all you need.

Longbarn5 · 15/05/2022 20:54

Experience has told me that I am more likely to get bored at larger weddings, as the photos take such a long time to do!!
That said, it is not actually boredom, usually it is a case of getting too hit or feeling too cold from being outside for so long so not actually bored, just uncomfortable.

Fizzysister · 17/05/2022 11:21

Agree with PPs, but I think as much as keeping guests engaged and entertained, atmosphere is important, and you can put things in place that help towards that. I went to a wedding this weekend where the venue was lovely but the reception room was too big for the number of guests and it all felt a bit 'sparse' and flat.

Saying that, I am just beginning to think about my wedding and have the same worry! I think it's because I can only control so much, the rest is down to fate/unknown.

Theblacksheepandme · 21/05/2022 20:00

Smaller weddings are better in my opinion.

bumblingbovine49 · 21/05/2022 20:19

My first wedding was a lot of fun. I had people tell me they genuinely thought it was the best wedding they had been to for ages. I know noone is likely to tell you your wedding was boring but ours genuinely was fantastic fun..The marriage was pretty awful though. My second wedding was a small intimate event and tbh was probably a bit dull really from the point of view of the guests but we are still married 20 years later.

My first wedding was for 130 people and I really made a massive effort to provide for all the needs of the guests . I made sure no one had to wait around ages for photos W e had fantastic food at a really good restaurant and free soft drinks and beer and wine all night. I knew most of the guests wouldn't get really drunk as the family and friends coming just didn't drink lots so people were just the right amount of tipsy. We had live traditional music for the older people until about 8pm after a meal at 5pm so there was waltzing and couple dancing that the younger people joined in a bit . Then my ex DH did the music after that as he was a bit of a DJ on the side and the music was fantastic. The younger people loved it whilst many of the the older generation went home a bit earlier having had a nice dancing earlier but finding the music a bit loud later on 😂.

For my second wedding I just had 10 people and did what DH and I wanted and we just had a meal followed by a drink at a river pub and didn't really stress about whether guests would be that entertained. I was less stressed about my second wedding though and it took a lot less organising

CantStartaFireWithoutaSpark · 22/05/2022 23:42

I had a similar stress about my wedding recently. I found a girl on Insta who talks a lot about this kind of stuff. She really helped me ease my mind. She’s worth a follow if you’re on insta. Lots of useful advice.
But basically she said to consider what the guest will
be doing at each part of the day. Entertainment isn’t required but as long as theirs is a provision for food or drink (or even a bar), somewhere for them to sit and not to be waiting around too long during photos.