New Years Eve wedding?

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Would you go if invited to a wedding on New Years eve?
Or is it too soon after Xmas for an event?

Immediate family yes but it's a hectic time of year so would prefer not to.

My absolute favourite time to attend a wedding!! You’re already off work, it’s hard to make decent plans these days for NYE, having someone planning something lovely to do for you is great. Fireworks etc just make it more magical.

I’ll come if you’re short on numbers!

Nope I wouldn't be keen. I love a wedding, but not on NY eve.

Sounds like fun, I'd go

I think there are three camps for NY people:

1. those that do nothing and like doing nothing
2. those that do nothing because there's nothing good to do
3. those that always do the same thing and its an annual commitment with other groups of people/families

I'm in camp 3. But if most of your friends and family are in camp 2 it would be lovely! You'd have to be a really close friend to make me give up my annual plans.

Only if I could stay over without having to remortgage.

I work in the industry and NYE weddings are always fabulous. Most people don’t have work the next day, are in the holiday spirit and you might be able to save on flowers if your venue is already decorated for Christmas. Hotels in particular are great for this.

If it didn't involve travel and was family yes, but otherwise no, sorry, we have family traditions on new years eve. I wouldn't travel and stay in a hotel but would go if it was driving distance and family or close friends😊

@thisplaceisweird that is a very helpful breakdown, all I hear from our immediate families about NYE is how boring and what an anticlimax it is and how people don’t want to go out to be cramped into a bar where you can barely get a drink because it’s so busy so we all kind of sit in our own houses texting each other, that’s why I thought maybe it would be nice to give everyone plans, but maybe I’d have to feel around for anyone wider who may be in one of the other camps
Thankyou

@ShirleyPhallus fabulous, you’re in the list!

I'm going to a NYE wedding this year. I'm not particularly happy about it but it's easier said than done to say no to one of your best friends. I'm planning on leaving as early as I can and blaming it on the kids' bedtimes.

I think it's a bit rude to book a wedding on a day when people have something else to celebrate already. But then I hate weddings.

I’ve always wanted to go to a nye wedding.

it might be hard if I had to travel though because hotels can be very expensive that night, so in reality it would depend on location, relationship, and my circumstances at the time.

Pre kids I would have been delighted to go. Post kids, finding a babysitter would be nigh on impossible and ludicrously expensive so I would decline.

No chance - NYE is a really special family day/evening for us.

Not for me but only because NYE childcare is impossible and hotel rooms expensive/taxis non existent

Whenever you arrange it it won't suit someone

We went a wedding between Christmas and NY a few years ago. The event nearly became a cropper as it was in the Lake District and there was heavy snow.

If it was very local, yes. Any travelling or an overnight stay would put me off. Hotels and taxis on New Year's Eve would be very expensive.

Travel would be my concern, but yes I would and have.

I would consider whether you can lay on or negotiate deals for accommodation or transport especially for out of town venues.

If there are people who you particularly would be upset if they couldn't go maybe check their views first.

Consider that babysitters are likely to be tricky too.

Cost of taxis is admittedly a concern

Everyone would be local, I can only think of one couple who live in the next neighbouring city but only around 45 mins out and I’d be very happy to let them stay in our house for the night rather than book a room if they wanted to (they’ve done this before when they’ve been in town)

Lots of very strong no’s which have surprised me, I didn’t realise NYE was such a big thing to some people

Thanks all for your thoughts

I think they're a brilliant idea.

You get to party. But instead of that "hang around getting drunker and drunker until the bl@@dy bells chime and you can go home" vibe it would be a wedding vibe.

A bonus is that, in years to come, when you've moved into the camp of not wanting to "hang around getting drunker and drunker until the bl@@dy bells chime and you can go home" you've got the readymade excuse - "Sorry, it's our wedding anniversary, we have other plans".

We got married on New Year's Eve.

@JesusMaryAndJosephAndTheWeeDon yes I was thinking maybe we’d have to lay on some minibuses or something, although that leaves people constricted to a particular time doesn’t it

so much to think about

I got married on the 30th, so new year vibe but not actually new year's eve. We were asking people to travel tho, but it was before most of our friends had children. We then arranged a get together on New Year's eve for those that wanted to stay an extra night. We also negotiated with the hotel we had the wedding at not to charge a large premium for staying on New year's even night.

yes of course, perfect time

Public transport might be non-existent. They often do railway engineering work over the new year.

Taxis etc could charge extra and be very busy.

Venues, hotel rooms, photographers, bands etc could cost a fortune or already be booked up.

Possible shortage of babysitters.

If most people are fairly local and the venue is easy to get to, then it might not be a problem, but for people living further away the hassle might not be worth it.

Personally I think it sounds quite fun but it would be tricky to get childcare if needed.

however I have been to a few weddings between xmas and new year. Works out well as many people off work anyway.

Lots of very strong no’s which have surprised me, I didn’t realise NYE was such a big thing to some people

ummm it’s a wedding thread. You could have said you’d hold it next door to their house and give them wads of cash and you’d get people saying you were selfish because of the noise and they’d have no way of carrying the cash home.

do whatever you want and accept if some people don’t come