Evening invite for weddings 6-7 hours round trip

[Movingdreams]

If you received an evening only invite for a wedding that would be a 6-7 hours round trip drive away (plus hotel, and DC not invited so would have to see if someone could have him overnight) would you think they don’t really want you there? Its from my step-cousin. She came to my wedding 6 years ago with her fiancé for the whole thing.

Feeling a bit sad as four years ago my DAunt, who I’ve always got on so well with, re-married in the same town and only invited DH and I to her ceremony, and yet almost all of the rest of the family had a full day/night invite. DAunt has never spoken to me again after I declined the invite.

I know people can invite whoever they like and I absolutely don’t dispute this. Just feeling a bit sad and hurt as it’s brought back how I felt after finding out about my DAunt’s wedding.

[ShirleyPhallus]

No, I’d assume that they were tight on space and invited who they wanted / who they could and then evening invitations for the rest.

Id decline it if I couldn’t go then not really think about it otherwise.

But this is MN, where any wedding invitations at all are cheeky fuckery and you’ll get cries of they expect you to attend / evening invitations are gauche / they probably want a present / the bride is a horrible money grabbing cah etc etc etc

[lakeswimmer]

Rather than asking, do they want me there? I'd be asking do I want to go? If you don't, then decline. If you do want to go, could DC stay at home with DH and you go alone if that makes it easier? It might be an opportunity to re connect with your aunt if you want to.

[BreakorMake]

There is no point in speculating about the invite. What is the worst that can happen if you decline? Would step cousin blank/block you, and if so will you care? Is she a big part of your life and do you see her often?

Don't fret about it, and don't go. The logistics are not great anyway. Let them at it, send a nice card and a gift and move on. Life's too short for anger and disappointment really about a wedding.

[Chica10]

I would decline - too much of a faff travel and expense wise, just for a few hours. Surely your step cousin must know this.