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Eloping regret?

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Xiomara22 · 22/04/2022 17:51

Anyone who ended up eloping did you regret it later on either due to not having everyone there you’d of had if you’d of got married locally or any other reasons not relating to your chosen husband/wife 😂

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Fbcbsjdb87273 · 22/04/2022 17:57

Nope, but we were just doing it for the legal & financial benefits. For whatever reason surely not the huge number of divorces in my fsmily I had never felt an urge for a wedding for me, though I do understand the general appeal of getting to dress up, splash out, big party etc!

Seafog · 22/04/2022 18:04

Not me, I had the whole horse and carriage shebang, but three couples I know of have eloped, and all have been glad they did years on.

CampKiwi · 30/04/2022 08:38

I eloped on April 16, 2022. I love love love my husband, but I do regret eloping. I thought I would be OK with it, and we ran off to another city and got married. Our money is extremely tight, and we couldn't afford even a small wedding. Now that it is 2 weeks later, I am feeling some type of way about it. I feel like I missed out on all the "fun" things that surround a wedding. Showers, all friends and family getting together, nice pictures of the event etc... I announced on facebook that we got married and got some congrats BUT here two weeks later, no one even sent us a simple card. I feel like I was always there for everyone. I was the maid of honor for my sisters, went to family's destination weddings which was expensive, gave nice gifts/money to many people and yet not one person could go and get us a simple wedding card. I feel slighted and hurt that no one seems to care about such a milestone in my life and want to celebrate with us.

mdh2020 · 30/04/2022 08:41

We didn’t actually elope but got married with just 6 friends in attendance at a registry office. What mattered to us was getting married, not being made a fuss of or having a big celebration. My DH still jokes that our wedding cost 14/9d.

trevthecat · 30/04/2022 08:43

Absolutely no regret here. And people always say they wished they had done it like we did.

Aitanacama · 05/05/2022 10:51

nope no regrets here,cost of weddings are insane,

Roguebludger · 05/05/2022 10:54

No regrets. 6 years later and still recommend eloping. We had no money and I couldn't bear the expectations and just wanted to get married.

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Xiomara22 · 05/05/2022 14:24

@CampKiwi this is what I think I’d feel like too!

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Aitanacama · 06/05/2022 00:10

@CampKiwi think of it practically you couldn’t afford a wedding so rather than wait, or go into debt, you got married to the love of your life, why do you care about not getting gifts or cards, those things are not important. And you can always do a vow renewal when you are better off financially, I have been.

Threetulips · 06/05/2022 00:15

We eloped 20 years ago - although we had 3 children so it seemed like a backward step! I don’t regret it. Families were too complicated to arrange everyone anyway.

HorribleHerstory · 06/05/2022 00:18

What is the definition of eloping. I’m considering it!

HalfShrunkMoreToGo · 06/05/2022 00:22

Coming up on 16 years ago we nipped over to Vegas and got married in the Little Chapel of Flowers. 5 nights holiday and a super quick wedding for less than lots of people spend on a dress, plus we didn't have to deal with the politics of family members who don't like each other or whether we should pick chicken or beef for the main course.

Neither me or DH like big events or being centre of attention, we were much more excited about being married than having a wedding so it made sense to elope. We loved it, had a great time in Vegas and never regretted a thing about it.

AllyCatTown · 09/05/2022 15:52

I think more people will regret not eloping. I just couldn’t spend £10k plus on one day. I sometimes wish we’d eloped as even a small wedding (which is what we’re doing) can have people trying to interfere etc.

Aquamarine1029 · 09/05/2022 15:58

We eloped 25+ years ago, and it's one of the best things we've ever done. Never had a single moment of regret.

Drinkingallthewine · 10/05/2022 14:54

We have planned the wedding for July 22 and are half-wishing that we had just eloped years ago and done it on holiday coming back married and just have a buffet in a pub to celebrate with everyone.

We are looking forward to our wedding but to be honest, it's more expensive than I expected (all my own fault for choosing to add in extra bits, admittedly) more work than I expected (again, I chose to make things I could have just bought on Amazon and drama came from the least expected corners, causing quite a bit of stress and upset for me until said persons got a talking to from someone else.

QforCucumber · 10/05/2022 15:02

@HalfShrunkMoreToGo , Us too - 3 years ago - just us in Vegas, in a rooftop gazebo then meal after in the Stratosphere. We had a party with family and friends on our return - regret absolutely nothing it was perfectly us (sometimes have pangs when others are wedding planning, then remember I hated it and that's why halfway through planning we changed our minds and went away)

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