Me and my partner have been invited to a wedding in Scotland, (I live in Devon) and the wedding sounds like brilliant fun, but if I’m honest I don’t want to go.
It’s going to involve a x2 return flights (£200?), at least two nights in a hotel (£250), hiring a car (£150?) as it’s over an hour from the closest airport, and then hiring a babysitter (£150+) to look after our toddler who’s only every been left once before for 24 hrs (our parents can help out, but they are elderly and couldn’t handle 3 days of childcare, he’s quite difficult) . So we’re looking at About £750, and on top of this, I’ll be nearly eight months pregnant, and I know I’ll be exhausted and uncomfortable that will certainly make the whole thing a bit of a slog.
If it had been at a time when we were a bit more flexible, we would have made the most of it and made a holiday out of it, which some of our friends are doing and it sounds great. But we can’t really do that this year.
I feel so guilty about not going. Is that ridiculous? I am friends with the bride and I genuinely really like her and her partner, and I think she’s great, but we’ve never been closest in our friendship group and she’s not someone I’d ever really arrange to meet up one on one. So I’m pretty sure she won’t be crushed if I don’t go.
But what do I say? Is being heavily pregnant a legit excuse? I’m sure others will be pregnant or have new-borns but still going? Cost feels like an awkward one, we’re not generally struggling financially, but our incomes will be cut in half when I’m on mat leave, so we’re also not flush. And it sort of feels like I’m saying ‘your wedding is not worth this amount of money’. Or do I come up with an excuse?
Either way I don’t want to flake out last minute, I want to give her plenty of notice.
Help please!
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How to tell your friend you don't want to go to her wedding?
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artline200 · 21/04/2022 15:30
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21/04/2022 15:52
artline200 · 21/04/2022 15:39
It will be literally just before the cut off for flying.
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