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Staying together night before?

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ImInStealthMode · 15/03/2022 10:07

Did you do this, or sleep apart as is tradition?

I'm not at all superstitious in general but I'm stuck on this one. We've booked a really nice penthouse hotel suite (hot-tub on the balcony etc) at great expense for the night before and night of the wedding so I can get ready there with my bridesmaids, and it seems a shame to stay there on my own the night before!

I could have a friend stay with me of course but I don't tend to sleep very well sharing with someone I'm not used to sharing with.

I'm thinking that DP could stay with me and then slip away first thing (he's good at getting up and getting ready for work with waking me!); otherwise he could check in with me, enjoy the room in the evening but then go home to sleep. The hotel is only a few minutes from our flat.

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NegativeNelly · 15/03/2022 10:11

Yes we did this stayed the night before at our venue and then got ready seperately. We don't believe in the superstition of it and it helped massively as we could also get our ceremony room set up the evening before too

MartinMartinMarti · 15/03/2022 10:16

We did something similar to this. It worked really well. we had a lovely chilled dinner the night before, then I snuck out early in the morning to get ready.

Retreat · 15/03/2022 10:20

Yes, we stayed together the night before our wedding. Still going strong 16 years later!

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ImInStealthMode · 15/03/2022 10:22

Thanks all! Feels a bit mean that I'd rattle around in a luxurious suite on my own while he's just at home and I think we'd probably both sleep better together than apart.

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SnowWhiteLobelia · 15/03/2022 10:22

We did! We were in the same bed and DH put my necklace on (and gave me a lovely bracelet as awedding gift). Then we walked together to our village registry office along with my maid of honour, our parents and the various random friends we had stay at ours that night.

Our neighbours (who were coming to the reception later) were on their doorsteps waving hankies and flowers. It was lovely.

18 years ago!

SnowWhiteLobelia · 15/03/2022 10:24

Also, the morning of our wedding we both woke up around 5 am and held hands in bed while talking about the coming day. It was lovely. :)

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ImInStealthMode · 15/03/2022 10:25

@SnowWhiteLobelia

Also, the morning of our wedding we both woke up around 5 am and held hands in bed while talking about the coming day. It was lovely. :)
Aaah that is lovely. I'm sold Smile Smile
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WalkingOnSonshine · 15/03/2022 10:25

We had two weddings (legal and celebration) and stayed together the night before both.

For the legal one, we got ready together and arrived together - it was actually really lovely to have some champagne and laugh and chat and leisurely get ready together.

SnowWhiteLobelia · 15/03/2022 10:26

I've not thought about it for a long time. It's been a lovely little trip down memory lane so thank you for the thread!

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 15/03/2022 10:27

We didn’t but I wouldn’t have minded if we did. I found the morning of my wedding very stressful so I think I’d have liked my DH there to help calm me down.

pinkyredrose · 15/03/2022 10:30

Of course he should stay, it'll be wonderful!

QforCucumber · 15/03/2022 10:32

We stayed together the night before, actually went for breakfast together and then went our separate ways until later in the day....it was a really nice quiet before the busyness of the day and I really liked that we had those couple of hours alone

CurbsideProphet · 15/03/2022 10:33

We stayed at home together the night before our wedding. Neither of us believed in the superstition and didn't want to make complicated arrangements for the sake of it! In the morning we said "see you at the top of the aisle" and off I went to get ready at the venue (20mins from home) Smile

That penthouse suite sounds amazing! Far more swish than the hotel we got married at 😀

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ImInStealthMode · 15/03/2022 10:40

That penthouse suite sounds amazing! Far more swish than the hotel we got married at 😀

It is pretty swish! I treated him to staying there for his 40th and we decided on the spot that we couldn't possibly stay anywhere else for the wedding.

My Brother and Sister-in-Law are staying at the same hotel so I can have a fancy breakfast with them if he's already slipped away for big greasy bacon rolls with his ushers.

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CurbsideProphet · 15/03/2022 11:10

As you've been there before and have happy memories it sounds even more perfect 🙂

Zazdar · 15/03/2022 23:24

No, we didn’t. The first time my husband saw me on our wedding day was when he turned around from the altar when I entered the church.

annlee3817 · 16/03/2022 13:09

We did, we had friends staying too as some had travelled from abroad, so we had a lovely evening with them, and DH went off early morning to get ready with his Best Men, I really liked waking up to him on our wedding day

easterdaffsx · 16/03/2022 21:44

We're all at the venue the night before and the night after .
Rehearsal family dinner on the eve and then we both have a gorgeous suite of our own each and won't see each other until the ceremony .
Just a bit of tradition there which we both like .
Do what's feels right for you. .

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ImInStealthMode · 17/03/2022 19:14

Thanks all. We're skipping a fair amount of other traditions already; no wedding cake, no top table, no best man's speech, and DP and I will walk down the aisle together (that's a tradition of his home country though). Might as well skip one more Grin

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violetanemone · 28/03/2022 14:52

Do what you like, it's your wedding. Don't do tradition for tradition's sake.

We are staying together, at home, and getting ready together, at home!

Who is really going to care, and honestly, so what if they do?

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