To go or not to go, dress shopping

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Had an appointment booked for a bridal shop in my town who are having a great sale before new lines come in, think 2k-2.5k dresses down to £500-750. Think I have seen the dress I'd like on their website. Had planned to go with friend, however they can no longer go due to getting covid last minute, other bridesmaid lives abroad so couldn't go and I have no family to ask. I do have 2 other friends who would have happily came if I asked them
She thinks to do this is unfair to her as bridesmaid. The shop suggested we could do a video call i.e I go (with or without the other two) and my covid friend can see from home. She wasn't overly happy with this either and said sure you'll get something else there's loads of options. So I have rearranged though the shop said they may not have many of the sale lines left.
Would you have gone ahead yourself or would you have rearranged? I feel upset because if it were me I'd of said sure take the others or do the call no problem.
She had her wedding last year (so recently enough to remember) and knew her dress from the shops website straightaway. She also didn't have the same budget constraints that I do so could have easily shopped around and happily spend more.
I just feel a bit let down by her attitude to the situation I guess.

Why on earth are you letting your friend dictate where and when you buy a dress?? You need to start standing up for yourself. Of course you should go. You don't need her on video call either.

Your bridesmaid doesn't want you to go wedding dress shopping without her?
Of course you should go. That's ridiculous

I think she is being very selfish, the video link was a good idea.

I'd go, your day, your dress, your choice.

Like you, I'd probably not have gone alone either but would more than likely have regretted it thinking I'd missed an opportunity. My sister couldn't make it the day I bought my dress. She didn't ask me not to go without her (I'd have been gutted if she did) and I went ahead not expecting to buy. Part of me is sad that I didn't wait for her to buy it so we could share the experience but I don't regret it. I'd have loved her to be there but I found the perfect dress and knew it. It was a lovely and exciting experience, as it should be, and she was excited for me. If you think it's the dress for you and it'll be a bargain, definitely try to arrange to go try it on. Take one of your other friends and have a lovely day. The shop I got mine from let me take my sister back another day and she loved seeing me in it because it was still the first time she'd seen me in the dress and I was super excited to show her. Your friend is understandably disappointed she can't be there but sometimes you just need to do what's right for you. It's your dress and your day. Hopefully she'll understand if it does end up being perfect for you and there will be plenty more exciting things to come she can be involved in.

Bonkers to cancel because your bridesmaid said so! Phone back and rebook

Go without her and try on the dresses you like. Don’t miss what could be a fabulous bargain because of your friend.

I would ho, take your other friends and tell her when your ready too she's sounds jealous

Don't let her spoil it for you.
She sounds like she is going to criticise everything anyway.

I'd re-book your time slot and go when you intended, especially given the budget constraints. Your friend may be disappointed but she needs to see the bigger picture!

Well, tried to rebook but it's gone. Hopefully when I can go the dress I'm after is still there, if not maybe wasn't meant to be. I am considering just going alone to that appointment though and just having a nice day for myself. Thanks for your advice guys, going to start putting better boundaries in place going forward!

I'd have gone, but to be honest I don't understand all the fuss about dress shopping being a bit occasion anyway. I chose my dress on my own and I have no regrets! It's about you, not anyone else.

I went wedding dress shopping alone 😂

Okay that’s a tiny lie because I brought one of bridesmaids with me the first time but that was just to try on lots of dresses to get an idea of what worked .

She was meant to come along the second time I went shopping but she couldn’t so I went alone . I have a few other close friends but I knew what I wanted and didn’t want conflicting opinions.

I made the mistake early on of showing my sister one of the designers I liked ( hayley paige) and my sister was like yuck 🤮 that’s horrible. That’s the designer I went with .

There are ( literally)millions of very suitable dresses out there at that price range. I found my dress in a bridal shop, reduced to £1k ( wrong size so needed altering). I also found it on eBay with a bridal sample seller for £450 and in the States for £500 ( in the other shade I liked better). Also on StillWhite but wrong size.
Get the name and get googling.