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Cancelling my wedding :(

18 replies

Sarah4567854 · 17/02/2022 21:44

The wedding of my dreams is supposed to happen in 6 months time to my partner of 12 years.
We have split up in the last few weeks and I need to cancel my wedding as there is no coming back - and even if there was, a wedding so soon is not the answer.
Can anyone help on how to write a letter to my venue to cancel and also how to tell my guests as invitations has already been sent out. I obviously don't want to go into details to the guests as to why we have split up but I need to let them know ASAP.
Thank you

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AnneLovesGilbert · 17/02/2022 21:45

Oh you poor thing Flowers

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Sarah4567854 · 17/02/2022 21:48

Thank you. Absolutely devastated and humiliated but need to get the ball rolling x

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Cheeseycheeseycheesecheese · 17/02/2022 21:48

I am so sorry!

I think a simple not to guests along the lines of:
"We have decided to call the wedding off and hope you can respect our wishes to not go into details just yet"

As for the venue, just a call to let them know you'd like to cancel should be sufficient?

Buzzer3555 · 17/02/2022 21:50

Its totally devastating for you but jusy business for the venue. Just can it. I am so sorry for your disappointment

CoraggioCara · 17/02/2022 21:51

Oh dear. I'm so sorry to hear that. I think this is where you call on a close friend or relative to help with the practicalities.

It's awful now, but in years to com you'll be in pleased it happened this side not after.

All the best

mimos4 · 17/02/2022 21:51

I'm really sorry this has happened. I don't think you need to worry about the venues, they will have dealt with this before. As for guests, email them with a brief note saying you've decided to call off the wedding, you wanted to let them know ASAP, and speak soon. No more details than that needed, and no-one will be probing you. It's 6 months away so I don't think anyone will have booked anything for it yet, surely, unless it's in an exotic location.

Easterbunnyiswindowshopping · 17/02/2022 21:51

Good morning guest..
Due to ex being a twat the wedding is cancelled..
Love op

NauseousNancy · 17/02/2022 21:55

I did this with about 5 months to go, no invites but save the dates had gone.

I emailed the venue/photographer/cake maker etc.

My maid of honour contacted all the ‘hens’ to cancel it, so then they knew obviously and this included close friends/aunts/cousins

My parents told my family.

I told friends who were going to be invited.

Get people to help you.

It feels like the end of the world right now buy I promise you will be ok. Cancelling a wedding before seems to bring so much more scandal than divorce - it’s so tough and you are so brave.

coodawoodashooda · 17/02/2022 21:57

Be really proud of yourself for being so brave.

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Sarah4567854 · 17/02/2022 21:57

What did you write in your emails to the vendors (venue, photographer ect) I literally do not know what to put. I'm crap at these things!

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Motheranddaughtertotwo · 17/02/2022 21:58

Just call or email the venue and tell them you need to cancel, no need for details.
As for guests, a text is sufficient saying that you’ve decided to cancel and will be in touch when you are ready. Maybe for older relatives ask a friend or family member to call them for you. A cousin of mine and his partner cancelled their wedding a couple of years ago. My auntie called and told us the bare minimum and that was that, it’s clearly painful to them so none of us have ever brought it up.
Be kind to yourself and concentrate on you at the moment.

PolkaSpace · 17/02/2022 22:00

Get people to help you. this is my number one bit if advice. Also I hope with time you see that this is not a humiliation and rather think of the beyonce song. You turned out to be the best thing I never had.

penelopequiche · 17/02/2022 22:01

I'm so very sorry. Something like...

Dear ...

Unfortunately due to circumstances beyond our control we regret to inform you that we will need to cancel the wedding on...

Obviously this is not a decision that has been easy and it is with great regret that we have reached it.

We are so sorry for the inconvenience and thank you for your understanding.

If there are any loose ends to tie up please
do let us know.

Kind regards

PolkaSpace · 17/02/2022 22:02

@Sarah4567854

What did you write in your emails to the vendors (venue, photographer ect) I literally do not know what to put. I'm crap at these things!
Dear xyz,

I am writing to inform you that out wedding on xyz is no longer taking place so your services etc are no longer required. I do of course understand the deposit is non refundable/the balance of xyz is still owed.

PolkaSpace · 17/02/2022 22:03

Don't feel it has to be written as "we" if that hurts too much. They will get the message however you write it so don't worry if it doesn't come out right

NauseousNancy · 17/02/2022 22:18

This is the exact wording (just checked my emails) - no details needed

‘Unfortunately we will be cancelling our booking, as we are cancelling our wedding.

Please let me know if you require anything further from us.’

Hiphopboppertybop99 · 19/02/2022 18:08

So sorry for your situation. But I think @penelopequiche wording is spot on.

Foxyloxy1plus1 · 01/03/2022 15:18

The formal way to inform relatives and friends would be to say :-
‘The wedding between ………. and ……… on ………. will not now take place.

For venues:-

This is to inform you that the wedding booked for …………… between……..and "…………… will not now take place. Please inform me if you need anything further.

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