Can you help me decide?

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Hi all I would like to get married here in Wales at our local church. I just can’t imagine getting officially married anywhere else also some older family can attend then who wouldn’t like to go abroad. But i don’t really fancy a traditional British wedding. I kind of want it abroad…. The sunshine, party, photos on the beach. I’m trying to plan but can’t decide what to do.

Do I get married here on the Saturday and wear dress have bridesmaids etc?! Do I have a party? Then do we go abroad with whoever wants to come rent out a place and have a brill party with my dress again. Orrr do I just have the wedding here and then go abroad for honeymoon. Am I making this too big and disjointed?!
Has anyone done this before or any ideas? I would be really grateful!

What’s your budget? Sounds expensive to have 2 dos. But fun! As long as you genuinely didn’t pressurise anyone to come to the second thing with you.

I kind of feel the same. I wish we lived somewhere hotter as a rainy wedding sounds rubbish. However I wouldn’t want to impose on my guests so I’m just going to suck it up then have a nice hot honeymoon and a normal British wedding.

@DragonMovie

What’s your budget? Sounds expensive to have 2 dos. But fun! As long as you genuinely didn’t pressurise anyone to come to the second thing with you.

I kind of feel the same. I wish we lived somewhere hotter as a rainy wedding sounds rubbish. However I wouldn’t want to impose on my guests so I’m just going to suck it up then have a nice hot honeymoon and a normal British wedding.

Yeh it’s what maybe I am thinking I should probably do. No there’s no pressure for anyone to come I don’t mind who attends. I’ve been brought up next to the church and generations of my family married there! Also I didn’t want to invite loads of people and keep it really small. Should I do it the other way around and get married abroad and go to the church to have a blessing?

Get married where your family are. Then take your dress on honeymoon with you and do photos on the beach if thats important to you

Yeah I agree with @CMOTDibbler. there are so many threads on MN about people’s unreasonable wedding expectations. Someone is bound to resent an enforced wedding abroad even if they never say it to you, even if you set aside some of the budget to contribute to people’s travel.

@DragonMovie

Yeah I agree with *@CMOTDibbler*. there are so many threads on MN about people’s unreasonable wedding expectations. Someone is bound to resent an enforced wedding abroad even if they never say it to you, even if you set aside some of the budget to contribute to people’s travel.

Weirdly enough it’s my wedding party who want it abroad 🤣

Weirdly enough it's my wedding party who want it abroad

Is it now? And whose wedding is it?

Decide on one.
Then when it is done have a service/event to renew your vows?

This is exactly it!!

I'd keep it simple and get married at home. I'm having a fairly low-key do and the planning is still more complicated than I thought it would be. I can't imagine how much more difficult and stressful it would be to organise something abroad. With destination weddings there's also the risk that you exclude people without meaning to. Not everyone will be able to afford the extra time/expense.

It also sounds as though your family has a special connection with the local church, and I suspect you might end up regretting it if you get married on a beach you might never visit again.