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Did you get married alone?

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cloudsandsun · 02/02/2022 14:43

Did anyone here get married alone with their partner? What was your experience? Me and my partner are due to get married next month alone. Other than our videographer and photographer as our witnesses. I have always wanted to do my wedding like this, I really do not want anyone else there. Just can't help but feel like it may be a little awkward with just us there? Or is that silly to think? We have been to give notice today and I can hear other weddings happening and it's all full of applause from an audience but we won't have one. Was your experience awkward? I have always dreamed of it being so romantic and all about us and I really hope it is 😊xx

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Hdhr8jsj · 02/02/2022 14:46

Not from my own experience but my DD did this last year and absolutely loved it. She says she wouldn't go back and do it any differently.

CrumpleHornedSnowcack · 02/02/2022 14:59

no but I have one planned - just myself & DP on a beach

Lemonie2000 · 02/02/2022 15:05

Yes! We did it last year and have no regrets. We eloped and didn't tell anyone apart from our parents. We had exactly the day we wanted with no interference from anyone else and didn't have to worry about ensuring other people were having a good time. At the end of the day it is your and your husbands day so have it however you want it.

LowlyTheWorm · 02/02/2022 15:07

Weird to have a photographer and videographer-
No we don’t want anyone else at our wedding, but we want it documented and recorded… for who?
I think it sounds a bit sad to not want to share your happiness with anyone other than paid witnesses.

Madickenxx · 02/02/2022 15:49

I don't think it's weird to have a photographer / videographer at all!
My first wedding was just the two of us and two members of staff as witnesses. We captured it on video and took loads of photos. It was fantastic. The highlight of our marriage to be fair as it wasn't great (divorced now) but we loved the wedding day.

I was a witness at a friend's wedding last year and it was only the 4 of us. It was beautiful and not at all awkward.

Just do what makes you happy. I am pretty introverted and the thought of lots of guests looking at me makes me feel lightheaded! It's your wedding so don't let anyone else try and tell you how it should be!

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cloudsandsun · 02/02/2022 15:56

@LowlyTheWorm we are getting married alone because we want it to be about us. Having a videographer and photographer is for us to look back on to remember our day?

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cloudsandsun · 02/02/2022 15:57

@Lemonie2000 brilliant I'm glad to hear your positive experience!!

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stillwaitingonaring · 02/02/2022 15:58

I would have loved to but OH wanted him family there x

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cloudsandsun · 02/02/2022 15:58

@Madickenxx yes exactly. I have never wanted the fuss and stress of a big wedding. So it's perfect for us 😊

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Aria2015 · 02/02/2022 16:05

Yes we did. It was fine. Got the photos over with (about an hour in total) and then we were able to celebrate just us. Had a pang of regret when I'd finished getting ready because there wasn't anyone to make a fuss of me or tell me I looked lovely (something I think most brides like to hear!). But that was the only pang, the rest was great.

Bananalanacake · 02/02/2022 16:45

We invited 4 people, we wanted our 2 DC there so we invited the PIL hoping they would keep the DC quiet when they got bored of the ceremony. FIL took photos on our phones (and got his finger in the shot for half of them).

etulosba · 05/02/2022 19:44

I did for my first wedding. Just us, the registrar and two witnesses we didn't know. Not Gretna Green, but close.

My mother was so upset when we told her. It was awful.

vesperlindor · 05/02/2022 19:54

We did. Went long haul for a fortnight, got married on a beach halfway through and didn't invite anyone. We were both a bit older, DH had a difficult ex and we both have awkward parent situations (divorces, step parents), so we decided to basically run away and do it. Was perfect, didn't have to think about anyone else! We had a party when we came back but only because our parents would have been disappointed otherwise, would have been perfectly happy without one. Both mums were a bit unhappy about not being invited to the actual wedding but they were both quite understanding about it.

2orangey · 06/02/2022 18:25

This is our plan in (under) a couple of weeks. Just the 2 of us in the registry office with the photographer and driver as witnesses. Never wanted a big white wedding. Hoping for a low key but romantic day. I'm sure your day will be lovely as well. Smile

MadisonAvenue · 06/02/2022 18:29

Yes, we did 24 years ago.
We had a holiday booked in New York and decided to get married while there. Our son was one at the time and our only guest, we asked the couple who’d married before us if they’d witness for us and they were happy to do so.
I wouldn’t change a thing about it.

BunnyRuddington · 06/02/2022 18:34

Just interested what your plans are for the day @cloudsandsun? Are you doing anything after the ceremony?

Colinthedaxi · 06/02/2022 18:39

No advice but doing the same next month - getting excited! Enjoy your day Smile

ILoveAllRainbowsx · 06/02/2022 18:43

We did. We went to a cafe near to the registry office and asked 2 people to be witnesses. It was quite stressful as we were running out of time as most people were to busy, but luckily we managed to find a couple of lovely people.

The registrar said that the local florist would often agree to be a witness but we didn't think it was fair to ask them.

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