Evening invites

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I'm getting married next September.
I am a manager with a team off approx 20. We generally all get on together and run a lovely dept. occasionally go for dept nights out eg a meal and a few drinks, a couple of us meet for the occasional dog walk together.
Our numbers are limited for night do (our choice) and its looking like I won't have enough invites for all my work colleagues to attend.
Are my partner and I doing the right thing by us both saying we won't invite work colleagues to any part of the day?
We won't have any problem getting to the max number with friends and extended family eg cousins and partners who we would both like there.
Thanks for any advice or support

Personally my view is I would only invite colleagues if they are also friends outside work. Doesn’t sound like you are quite at that level with any of them.

It does sound like that none of your colleagues are significant friends outside of work. Therefore, invite all or none.

I would say it's normally perfectly acceptable not to invite your work colleagues. There are exceptions. These events can be good business networking,PR and goodwill opportunities. If your work is in a village or small town then it might well be politic to invite everyone and their partners and grannies. Without knowing more about your circumstances it's hard to say if you are likely to be putting your foot in it.