Were you happy leading up to your wedding?

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Just wondering how others felt leading up to their wedding, were your really happy and in love or is that just unrealistic?

We're still carrying on with everyday life kids running of the house and financial stress. Not terrible financial stress just the fact that we have a wedding, pregnancy, birthdays & Christmas coming up we will manage but it's still not nice.

I feel a bit lonely in my pregnancy but I guess I felt like that with the others too. I find that OH isn't to fussed about reassuring me this time around as he is did the others.

I know i will be happy on the day but it's just getting to the day that is tough.

So curious to see how everyone felt leading up to to their big day

We were going to get married this year but owing to a family bereavement we cancelled it

It was a huuuge weight off my shoulders

I'm now looking back thinking what a monumental waste of money that would have been!!

Just no point and if it's stressing you out cancel it

Yes, very. We had already been together for 12 years and I knew it was absolutely the right decision for me. We didn't spend much though. Had about 30 people to sit down meal and flew out that evening for our honeymoon. No fuss, no cost, nothing to plan or stress about. Bliss.

I felt I couldn't get excited about mine the way other people do. My first date was cancelled due to covid, then the second was rescheduled but we were only allowed 10 guests and up to the actual day of the wedding another lockdown was expected. So we were lucky our second date wasn't cancelled .
We had a very small wedding and party in the end. We never prioritised the wedding or spent a lot of money on it as we're a low income family with 4 kids so the wedding had to take a back seat. Other people spend thousands on a wedding but we just never had the money or the time to plan anything extravagant. But I was in love with my DH and we just wanted to be married and that was what became most important to me.

I wanted to get married but the thought of everyone staring at me filled me with terror.
On the day itself l put the biggest smile on my face and just got through it but no post wedding blues for me....was glad it was all over!

No. We were having huge family issues with extended family and business issues. We had drifted apart because of the kids - he didn't help much and did no night wake ups.

He didn't organise any of it either. Just basically turned up and tbh the day was spoilt by his horrible mother and brother.

But there was no way in hell was I backing out of it because I would have been financally screwed.

We split a few years after and I walked away with what I was owed

Really happy although I had a few issues leading up with my close friend. But as far as he and I were concerned everything great. Some of his family came down with Covid just before but although stressful we got round it. I felt very flat afterwards.

We got married very quickly because my best friend was terminally ill and she really wanted to see us getting married. We had four weeks to plan it. It was lovely - I found a pretty dress and he bought a white suit on eBay ! He even bought a cake which I hadn't thought of. We had 18 people for lunch, and my friend had a lovely time. It was a lovely day, I couldn't have been happier.

I know i will be happy on the day but it's just getting to the day that is tough.

I don’t think being happy on the day is enough. You’ve said you feel lonely and implied he’s not supporting you with that. The wedding day is a tiny part of being married.

In general, yes. It was a long time ago but I remember being happy and content, satisfied that things were coming together. We had been a couple for several years but never lived together full time for more than a month or two due to our work schedules and were not living in the same country in the months before the wedding. We had made plans to change that and more.

There were some extremely stressful moments not really related to the wedding, but where the tension came out. I can remember sobbing my car over something trivial and unrelated to the wedding. I can remember an ugly scene with my mother where we were taking out some of our stress on each other. Even if it's all well planned and you're happy, it is stressful and that needs an outlet.

We reached a point where the schedule took over and we could just enjoy all the nice parties friends and family had planned. On the day itself, I remember being happy and enjoying our reception. The next few days were busy ones: visiting the consulate en route to our new home country, signing the final papers to buy our house, spending one night at his old house before heading to the airport to start our wedding trip.

Congratulations! I hope you are content with your choice and wish you all the best.

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