Worried about my daughters being cold at my friends wedding

[Cottonbud25]

So my friend is getting married at the end of November and has kindly asked my daughters to be flower girls (age 2 and 4). I never really got a say in the dresses which I never expected anyway, however, the dresses are not really appropriate for cold weather. They are strappy white dresses with a shawl on top, but the shall has no sleeves and the arms are exposed. The ceremony is going to be indoors so I’m not overly worried about that, however I believe the pictures will be outside and I don’t feel too comfortable with the idea of my children freezing for a couple of fancy pictures. How do I address this?

Ask her what colour duffle coats she prefers.

Take coats for them and throw them on between photos.
If you complain she’ll probably say she is in a strappy dress too.

Speak to the bride and find out what she's planning.

They will do a couple of pics outside. Take s coat for the hanging around bits

Buy nice coats in a matching colour and put them in them between pictures?

Take coats. They won’t need to have them off for long to take pics. Hand warmers or thermals?

Take coats for inbetween.
It shouldn't take more than 10 mins. That might be a lot more time than what's needed.

Thank you! Luckily the dress code is pink and they already have 2 nice pink duffle coats so I will bring them 😊

Honestly the bride is pretty laid back, it’s actually the mother of the bride I’m worried about 🤣

We had a November wedding and nobody seemed overly cold for the photos. The weather was mild though - had it been rainy and / or cold and windy, we'd have done photos indoors.
I didn't have bridesmaids but plenty of the young guests wore party dresses and were quite happy running around outside even when they didn't need to be.

It's not feeling like November at the minute!

@Toddlerteaplease

It's not feeling like November at the minute!

That really depends where you are in the UK surely? We have snow forecast for next week

Just take their coats and take them off for the photos then put them back on. Everyone will be cold so they won’t be taking photos outside for long

They’ll be cold for 10 minutes. It’s not an issue.

Yep, turns out we are forecast for snow and 5° temp on the wedding day..

I mean, it kind of is.

Ask her if she can buy some pink cardigans.

We've just had this issue at the weekend. We were all sodding freezing. We'd been told coats were ok but on the day everyone was told to take them off.

My daughter is only 1 so I was worried about her but she seemed to be the only one not cold.

Every time someone was called for a photo they'd gone back inside to warm up so it took forever to get all the photos done. So be aware it could take longer than you're expecting. Make sure they keep wrapped up right until they're expected in a photo if they really have to take coats off.

@Cottonbud25

Yep, turns out we are forecast for snow and 5° temp on the wedding day..

So unlikely they’ll be doing photos outside then.

Is it bad that if anyone in our family asked me for DD aged two to be a flower girl, my first thought would be - oh no!
We have twin toddlers girl and boy and if anyone asks them to be involved in a wedding party I will have a breakdown having to wrangle them.
I should add DH's brother has said he will propose at Christmas and there are no other small children in both families.

I would find a lovely pink cardigan and send her the link and say "mind if I buy these for the outdoor pictures?"

She will get the message and you're not stressing her out with another task to do for the wedding (finding a suitable cardi).