Posed Photos...

[JorisBonson]

DH and I having a vow renewal (to make our mums happy!) and belated party after eloping during covid last year. We still have our photographer from our original cancelled wedding as we would have lot a lot of money otherwise.

She's asked me what posed / group photos I would like. DH and I both camera shy and pull Chandler Bing smiles. MIL and FIL haven't seen each other for years and there's no love lost. DF has a partner who everyone hates.

What's the minimal amount I can get away with and how should I do this? I know DM and MIL would like family pictures as they obviously weren't with us last year.

Totally depends on the make up of your individual photos.

I wanted photos with just my house family from when I was growing up / that + partners (no-one had dc at the time) / ones with "everyone related to the bride" / then ditto from groom's side / dh also had one with us and his 3 then living grandparents / we had a few different groups of friends one rather than one of those where they try to get everyone at the wedding on the same photo. / we had one with bridesmaid, one with best man and ushers, one with both. / one signing the register / one with the minister.

But we didn't have divorced parents or any other complicated circumstances.
It will really depend on the make up of both families.
Don't worry about the fixed smile - we all thing that, as most people don't like having their photo taken, but I found, on the day, we were just so happy, the smiles flowed naturally.

We're getting married in December - we're doing us with my family, us with his and then one of everyone together with a handful of just the two of us. Everything else is going to be candid snaps. Our photographer has asked about any tricky dynamics so maybe you could just give them a heads up?

That's a good idea @Cah03, tell her who to keep away from who! 😂