Wedding On Saturday,hate how I look in pics

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So I've had a lovely 2 piece wedding outfit made for me. I also have a couple of back up outfits just in case. Tried them all on tonight and thought I looked great. Hubby to be suggested taking some pics so I could chose my favourite ...and now I hate them all.
The one I had made,I look short,fat and dumpy and my legs look massive
Second and third outfits I hate myself in too.

This has also made me hate my hair as I'm convinced it's too short

This was MEANT to be the most relaxed wedding ever. Just us and the kids in a garden in Oxfordshire. Now I don't want any photos. I just wanted to look as gorgeous as partner does in his suit,but I think I look horrendous.

The thing is,if I was dressing up to go out,I'd never take a pic of myself,just be satisfied with how I look in the mirror but now it's like I can't unsee it.

It doesn't help that my period came on this morning,5 days too bloody early.

Can anyone talk me down/offer some words of advice?

I expect the real problem here is a badly taken photo (or three!) whether that be down to angles or bad light etc, given you thought you looked great before the photos.
Either way, you’re being terribly harsh on yourself and I’m quite sure, even without seeing the outfits, that you look nowhere near how you describe yourself here.
Massive congratulations on your upcoming wedding

If you hate all 3 options I think you can be pretty confident you’re not seeing yourself accurately. Try again tomorrow without the photos, focusing on how you feel in the outfits and go from there. Day 1 of a period does a number on my confidence/thinking so I reckon it’s that.

Firstly, ignore all negative self-talk on the first day of your period. Don't even entertain thoughts of what you look like today. Do something nice for yourself and park the outfit decision for tomorrow.

Secondly, this will certainly be down to bad amateur phone photos. You'll look stunning on the day with a special glow of happiness on your face. Have the photographer take a range of photos both full length and waist-up so that if you don't like how your legs look you'll still have some that show your happy faces.

Imagine yourself age 80 looking back at the pictures and feeling sad that the younger you was so down on her appearance. Older you would definitely say that you looked fantastic and that the outfit was not the most important thing on the day.

If you hate all 3 options I think you can be pretty confident you’re not seeing yourself accurately.
I agree. I bet you look lovely.

I'm sorry you're having a confidence crisis! That's all this is, you can overcome it. Is it your wedding?

This is definitely about how you feel rather than how you actually look.

Whe you tried them on you liked them all. Remember that feeling. Not a bad photo.

Have a wonderful wedding day. Wear your favourite outfit and hold your head high.

Spiceweasle had good advice.....how many times do we look back at 20 year-old photos and think 'omg I was worried about x on that day.....why I look amazing'. I bet you will look amazing.

Thanks all. I'm going to just leave them alone today,2nd day of period and feeling bloated and crap. They usually only last a few days so am hoping by Sat,it's gone.

Have booked someone to do my hair at the air BnB thankfully so that's one problem sorted hopefully. Also not going to take any more pics. You're right,I just need to go by what I see in the mirror.

I think I'm also feeling a bit sad and guilty as I might decide not to wear the outfit that was made for me as the 2nd one is more flattering. Stupidly I'm feeling guilty towards the dressmaker,who I paid!

It's funny with photos; I can look bloody dreadful or absolutely amazing depending on the light, the angle or even how my mood affects how I perceive myself.

I thought I was the only person who hated how I looked on the first day of my period, not just from feeling a bit bloated but somehow my hair doesn't look right, my face, my figure. Glad to hear it's actually a thing other women encounter!

I'm sure it's a mixture of a couple of bad photos, your period and maybe a few nerves about the day.

Wear the outfit you feel most confident in and I hope you enjoy your day. I'm sure your husband will love what you're wearing too.

I’m a dressmaker (amongst other things) and I honestly wouldn’t give a toss if someone chose not to wear what I’d made when they felt better in something else. If it’s a 2 piece you might get use out of the separate garments later as well so it isn’t even a waste.

Have the best day x

Do you know what OP I had my first dress fitting to do the adjustments the day before I came on my period. I hadn't worn my dress since I bought it and my boobs felt too big, I felt bloated and wasn't sure about how I looked. I had my second fitting last week. Had lost just 3 pounds and no bloated ness and I felt awesome. I reckon it's your period. Give it a couple of days and yourself a pep talk and you will feel amazing. I'm sure you look better than you think x

I saw one bad picture of myself last week just before I ordered some new work clothes. The photo was bad enough that I ordered two sizes up from my normal size (two sizes!) because I couldn't believe just what a state I'd let my get to etc etc. Needless to say, the clothes arrived and I look like coco the bloody clown- I might as well be wearing an actual tent!

So basically, don't believe photos. And also, I know it's corny, but there's nothing more beautiful than genuine happiness. Just allow yourself to be happy on your wedding day xx

Photos are the devil and they lie. I was in photos this weekend next to people 3 dress sizes bigger than myself and the angles make us look the same size. The shape of the lens literally changes what you look like. If you stand next to someone in the mirror, they look exactly like how they really look right? So do you.