Postpone wedding again?

[pinkpanther84]

My wedding is due to take place in late July. This is our 4th date. Originally arranged Pre covid. I am in a dilemma about what to do.

Cases are rising massively where I am, particularly in schools. I have 2 primary age children and I'm getting really worried that one of them might have to isolate if there is a case in their bubble, and then the wedding would have to be cancelled last minute. Obviously there are also the worries about what covid restrictions might be in place on the wedding day, should the 19th July 'freedom date' not go ahead. I am seriously considering postponing again, to maybe September, to hopefully give the cases a chance to settle down when kids are not mixing at school over the summer. This is basically a what would you do? It's so hard to make a decision not knowing what's going to happen! Thank you.

I'm in the same dilemma, also end of July! I got told to self-isolate by the Covid app yesterday for seven days and I suddenly realised this could happen right before the wedding. No idea how I didn't think of this before! I've been so focussed on restrictions lifting and whether we can dance, I didn't even consider what would happen if one or both of us got told to isolate

We can't postpone to later this year as our venue is completely fully booked now. Insurance wouldn't cover anything anymore either. I have no idea what to do and can't offer any advice but just solidarity!!

My DP said he thinks we should just go ahead and try to be careful in the run up, but that's not possible for you if you've got children and they need to be in school. My DP is also a keyworker so he can't really work from home before the wedding eirher. Also worrying loads of our guests will get told to isolate right before it too I honestly cannot wait for it to be over now, it's just one thing after another to worry about!

@mrsplum101 thanks for your reply, so sorry to hear you're in the same boat! It's a nightmare isn't it. We've also looked into wedding insurance and as you say none is available. We have a meeting booked anyway with our venue next week when we are meant to be making final arrangements, so I will be finding out what other dates they have available, if any, and what would happen should one of us or the kids have to isolate for the wedding date. It might all work out fine but with the luck we've had I wouldn't be surprised if something like that happens! I hope everything works out ok for you

And yes I was the same, entirely focussed on what restrictions would be in place, could we stand up with a drink etc, it only just occurred to me about the isolating risk when I started to hear about lots of cases around schools 🙈 as if we didn't have enough to worry about!

It's such a nightmare isn't it! People keep telling me it'll be fine but given how the last 15 months have gone I really don't trust that! I hope your venue can be flexible, it's the idea of getting told like the day before or even the morning of that we have to isolate which is massively freaking me out 🙈 but then equally we would want to know if we were a risk as we don't want to be passing Covid around at our wedding, I just really thought this would all be over by now

We did manage to get some wedding insurance from Cover My Wedding but it was £188 and doesn't cover anything Covid related at all so wouldn't help for isolating, but I was just catastrophising and thinking of everything else that could possibly go wrong!

Have your suppliers started to ask for final balances? DP doesn't think we should pay anything until at least 5th July when Boris makes the next announcement but I know some are due sooner than that and feel really bad as they obviously need paying. I think if we got cancelled a few days before due to isolating we'd just have to chalk it up to the worst luck in the world and go to the registry office and spend a few more years saving up for a party 🙈

I'm not sure if it would work for you or not but I plan just not to send dd to nursery the week before the wedding just in case!
We are august but still concerned re the cases rising locally and our "freedom" day in Scotland is the week before so any put backs even a week will affect us.

Same boat - earlier wedding though. We're the 16th july.

Dp and I are both teachers plus we have a ds in primary school. We're testing every other day and keeping ourselves to ourselves as much as possible

Do has even cancelled his very small stag (was literally drinks with his pals in the pub)

It's shit!

I would just go ahead op. We had our wedding this month and there were plenty of school age children including my 2 flower girls. It really was a truly wonderful and beautiful day. Who knows how long these restrictions will linger around for & you can't postpone forever. It sounds like you've already been through so much on the postponing front, just do it and once you are married you'll feel amazing