Same Bridesmaid Twice?

[DuzzyFuck]

Am I being silly here? DP (well DF now!) and I are in the early stages of planning our wedding after getting engaged recently. First time for him, second time for me. My first marriage was short and abusive.

We're talking about the wedding party. He's got a choice of a couple of potential best men, and I'm thinking about bridesmaids. One obvious choice; she's an old friend and was actually there when DP and I met, we all get on brilliantly.

I then have a quandry; I have another friend that I love to bits and is so excited for me having seen the raging bin fire that my last marriage turned into, but she was a bridesmaid for me at that wedding. It feels a bit funny to me to ask her again, but I can't really explain why.

Am I just being silly in my quest to avoid even the slightest bit of repetition or would anyone else feel weird about either having the same bridesmaid twice, or being the same bridesmaid twice?

I don't think you are being silly, have who you want! I am getting married the second time in October and chose only to have my daughter's as bridesmaids. If you want her to be and she is excited to be, do it!

It's not silly at all. Congratulations. I'm sure your old friend will be pleased you are happy and have moved on and be glad to be a bridesmaid if you ask her again.

I was bridesmaid twice for the same friend. Her first DH died and she was only going to have my dd as a flower girl but changed her mind and had the same three friends as first time around. It was lovely. And very emotional.

I have actually done it twice for one friend (5 times in total, I really don’t want to ever do it again!) It’s not really that weird, no one will even notice. I’ve been her best friend for 30 years, people would think it more weird if I hadn’t been.

My dh's friend had the same best man for both of his weddings which i thought was a bit odd.
The best man sneaked in coded message referencing the friends previous adultery into the 2nd best mans speech.

Thanks all; you've reassured me a bit. I don't even know if the bridesmaid in question is available; our date is in half term next May/June and she may be on holiday with her family, but I think I'll ask her anyway.

I'm getting a bit obsessed with everything being completely different as I don't want anything on the day to remind me of that day, so totally different venues, different time of year, different style of dress, different colours, different style of day (last one was traditional formal, this one will be a ceremony followed by a party).

@User27aw

I was my sister's bridesmaid twice, she had a smaller bridal party for the third but I'd have happily been her bridesmaid a third time too. You can change the details but you should still have the people you love where you want them imo

I think it just depends on your friendship now rather than anything weird about repeating. I am divorced and would probably have 1 of my previous bridesmaids again for next wedding, just because I have drifted apart from the other two. I wouldn’t find it weird at all!