Roadmap moan

[mrsplum101]

Does anyone else just feel utterly deflated? Our wedding is booked for the end of July, the 3rd postponement, and now they're talking about pushing the roadmap back for 21st June because of the new variant. I'm just done with it all. It's so frustrating and miserable, none of it makes sense and they don't even seem to be talking about testing as a way to let weddings happen like they've done with large events like the Brits and that warehouse club. I can't plan anything and I just feel so flat about it all. Just want a moan really.

Agree - I haven't postponed so not as frustrating as for you I'm sure but planning a wedding and feeling unable to get excited or know if it can go ahead for sure is tough. We are mid July and had just send out 140 invitations... now feel silly.

Just have to have faith in the vaccine stopping hospitalisations going up.

You’re not alone; ours was meant to be March but it’s been postponed to feb 22.

I’m not booking anything else or arranging anything else until just before. If it doesn’t go ahead than we’re running off and getting it done just the two of us in the registry office.

Had enough.

How big is the ceremony/party after? Is it a big affair that’s oils need to wait or would you be happy with a small gathering with everyone in masks?

@DiscoFlamingo definitely agree, there's been no excitement at all and just constant worry about whether it will go ahead or not.

@FTENGINEERM I really hope by next Feb everything is back to normal! We only have around 65-70 people including us so not a huge wedding by any stretch, I'd be gutted to have to cut down to 30 though and not be able to have a dancefloor etc. I'm also going to hold out on paying for anything else now until I absolutely have to, we've already lost £1500 as we had to repay our deposit with the venue and the insurance we had was crap and had loads of clauses which protected the insurers paying out for anything! If it gets cancelled I think we'll just go to a registry office as well with just the two of us.

I (kind of) know how you feel. Wedding booked for end of August, we were so sure things would be back to normal by then.
I so wanted both our families and friends there with us. But ever since we got engaged (bang in the middle of lockdown 1, so romantic) I've said that nothing else matters as long as we walk away married. Preferably to each other . Maybe that's worth holding on to, although having to postpone your wedding can't have been nice at all

I booked last June, they 19th June this year, saw the roadmap and changed to end of July!!

If it doesn't happen this time we are going abroad to get married, had enough.
I am not having a wedding in masks and no party

@withaheyandahoandaheyheyho yes definitely, on the good days I remind myself the most important thing is actually getting married and we could do a party whenever. I do feel quite selfish being so moany when others have lost family, friends, jobs, homes etc. Not having a wedding isn't the end of the world, but just makes me feel sad when we've waited so long and put other plans on hold

@Cantdecidewhich I feel your pain! And yes I don't want to have it in masks and no dancing etc either, I'd rather go somewhere just the two of us.

Totally understandable for you to be pissed off and disappointed with this palaver. I'm in the same boat - due to get married early August, already postponed once. To add to things, my dear old dad died a month ago and I really 'needed' this wedding to happen so I could feel that something had gone 'right'. Now, I'm trying to shift focus to the ceremony - if that happens, I will be do happy. If we get the reception afterwards I will be bloody ecstatic.

Yep, ours was originally May 2020. Then moved to September 2021.

We've now postponed again til May 2022.

Same here OP. Ours is mid July and our 3rd date. I’ve invited 40 guests and hoping they will all be allowed to attend.

I’m dreading restrictions such as social distancing and masks wearing still being in place too.