Hen night keeping me awake

[Bubbletime123]

Im stressing and feeling anxious my friend who is my moh wants to throw me this extravagant do for my hen weekend. Its a lovely thought but its making me realise how much I dont have much other friends and i am worried no one will turn up. I can be very standoffish with people and it's making me feel really worried. What could i do to ensure people turn up

Could you ask the MOH for a less extravagant hen do? Maybe a spa day where numbers aren't important.

That does sounds stressful :(

Is it really what you want? If not, can you just have an honest conversation with your MoH and tell her that you want something smaller, or maybe even just go out for a day somewhere with her and any bridesmaids/ other females in your family or friend group, even if it's not many?

Don't feel pressured to agree to a big event if it's not what you want.

There isn't really much you can do to ensure people turn up or agree to come. You could ask for deposits etc. but then they would have to do that in the first place and if they aren't close enough to you they probably won't.

There's nothing wrong with having a smaller group of friends, that is just some people's preference. It's your day and it's about you as you are, don't feel like you have to apologise for that! x

Good chance people won’t turn up if they’re anything like me, I loathe being asked to use my holiday and hard-earned money on someone else’s extravagant hen do, so I’d decline, no reflection on you obviously, I just will not be bamboozled into indulging these things. Hen dos on a small scale are fine though. You need to speak up now- I arranged mine myself. ‘If you want something done right...’ and all that.

Firstly ask your good friends yourself if they want to come on a hen do. Then ask MOH to organise something with those people that you/they would like to do. (Afternoon tea, meal out, going for a manicure together, pizza and video at yours) - There is no set hen do. You can do what ever you like. There are no rules that say it has to be a big party. After the year we've had - spending time with friends in any way, shape or form will be enough.

I agree with the spa day idea op. You shouldn't need to feel anxious about it

I don't have loads of friends either just a few close ones & we have a lodge booked for the weekend at a spa place.

I wasn't fussed about having one but my friend insisted so I felt that was a good compromise.

I hope you manage to get something that suits you.