Do u think this could be adjusted if pregnant

80sPadme · 2021-05-12T18:26:28+00:00

We are NTNP, I'm thinking though that means I could be anything from a few weeks to 7 months pregnant. Do you thing my dream dress could still be altered for the day???

ElderMillennial · 12/05/2021 19:29

I don't know what NTNP means but I think it depends how pregnant you are at the time and whether the dress has much give in it.

You might need to get a bigger size and then get it altered.

MrsCaptainJakeBallard · 12/05/2021 19:34

Sorry I don't know what that means either, however I'm not sure that dress could be altered if you had a big bump.

My sister ended up 5 months pregnant at her wedding & they altered the dress by putting a corset fitting in the back but the material allowed for that, I'm not sure lace could be altered in that way?

I'm not a professional though so someone will hopefully come along & correct me

Devlesko · 12/05/2021 19:34

I agree, if you get a bigger size and have it altered.
Your boobs could be bigger depending on how pregnant you are.
What is NTNP?
Is it where you don't know at all?
I was 22 weeks with ds1 and had no idea.

MrsCaptainJakeBallard · 12/05/2021 19:36

Oh I just assumed you already had the dress, but yes a bigger size would work better if you don't already have it.

fairgame84 · 12/05/2021 19:36

Not trying not preventing.

I don't see how it could be altered because of the lace.

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80sPadme · 12/05/2021 22:24

@MrsCaptainJakeBallard

Oh I just assumed you already had the dress, but yes a bigger size would work better if you don't already have it.

I already have the dress, I guess I'll just have to hope I can pack in it lol NTNP- not trying, not preventing.

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namechangemarch21 · 12/05/2021 22:37

OP you're trying to conceive, you're not 'not trying' - if you're having unprotected sex, that is quite literally the definition of trying to conceive. All the rigmarole around temping and ovulation sticks are what people do when they're struggling with infertility or its taking a while, most people just have unprotected sex for a few months and get pregnant.

I would have thought that style dress is quite tricky to alter to be honest: it seems to be fishtail which is hard to do in a bigger size - I don't think you could just let it out. Plus you'll want to be comfortable. That fabric is quite tricky. I think the best thing is to keep an open mind and if/when you are pregnant, go to a dressmaker and see what they can do. It might involve substantially altering it - say, introducing a laced back - or it might not be possible at all, I'd say at this stage maybe do some research at skilled local dressmakers and then see where you are closer to the time.

titchy · 12/05/2021 22:45

If you're not preventing then chances are you'll be pregnant when you get married. And that dress looks very very difficult to adjust. So choose - condoms for a few months, reschedule wedding or buy a different dress.

ThatIsMyPotato · 12/05/2021 22:48

Could you buy an emergancy spare floaty one?

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80sPadme · 13/05/2021 08:29

@titchy

If you're not preventing then chances are you'll be pregnant when you get married. And that dress looks very very difficult to adjust. So choose - condoms for a few months, reschedule wedding or buy a different dress.

I really want to wear this dress so NTNP will have to be off for a few months at least. I really want to wear this dress xx

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MotherOfCrocodiles · 13/05/2021 08:35

I think even if it could be adjusted it would be unflattering with a bump

MrsCaptainJakeBallard · 13/05/2021 11:35

@MotherOfCrocodiles

I think even if it could be adjusted it would be unflattering with a bump

Yeah the more I look at it the more I have to agree to be honest. It looks quite open at the back which I don't think would suit a bump either.

Sorry op it is a beautiful dress though, if you can hold off ttc I'm sure it will be gorgeous!

ThatIsMyPotato · 13/05/2021 11:43

Decision made then. I hope you have a lovely day.

Zancah · 13/05/2021 12:05

I think you'd be fine if you were no more than 3-4 months pregnant. Any more than that and I think I the look of the dress would be too … compromised? .… I don't know, I think it wouldn't look right.

Also, is this your first baby? If you've never been pregnant before, you just don't know how you'll be feeling. I felt like utter shit the first 4 months. I'd be gutted if I was getting married as it would have completely wrecked it. All that money wasted!

fruitbrewhaha · 13/05/2021 12:29

I think I'd wait until after the wedding. You will enjoy the whole thing a lot more if your aren't stressing about what to wear, feeling tired, sickness, exhaustion an the actual day would ruin it, or if the pregnancy isn't going to plan and there is medical intervention, prescribed bedrest etc

fruitbrewhaha · 13/05/2021 12:31

Once you are pregnant and have kids there are so many parties, events nights out that you are going to miss. Don't "miss" your own wedding.

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80sPadme · 13/05/2021 12:39

@Zancah

I think you'd be fine if you were no more than 3-4 months pregnant. Any more than that and I think I the look of the dress would be too … compromised? .… I don't know, I think it wouldn't look right.

Also, is this your first baby? If you've never been pregnant before, you just don't know how you'll be feeling. I felt like utter shit the first 4 months. I'd be gutted if I was getting married as it would have completely wrecked it. All that money wasted!

Yes been pregnant before more than once so I know I carry fairly compact until 4 months when I look 8 months gone almost overnight. I think we will completely hold off until a month or so before, then I could potentially be just pregnant then or get caught just after.

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80sPadme · 13/05/2021 12:40

@fruitbrewhaha

Once you are pregnant and have kids there are so many parties, events nights out that you are going to miss. Don't "miss" your own wedding.

This is how I feel deep down. A spoilt as it sounds it's our day and I want to be 'us' without feeling sick and tired

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kent1991 · 05/06/2021 05:12

As somebody whose getting married this year at 7 months pregnant after many postponed weddings it depends entirely how pregnant you are. Also individuals are so different. I didn't show too much until 14/16 weeks but Im definitely not able to wear my old dress. Mine would have been difficult to adjust and entirely backless and i felt a bit silly. I love my new dress and surprisingly confident with my little bump.

We decided to keep trying because I'd had quite a traumatic miscarriage over lockdown 1 and other health complications so knew trying might be difficult. For us this was a no brainer but assuming you don't have concerns then no need to rush it.

Also, if you decide you dont want to be heavily pregnant I'd stay on contraception until you're in the right window as sometimes does still happen when you're not particularly trying !

kent1991 · 05/06/2021 05:18

Also my original dress was also tight on my bum hips, a similar shape at the bottom and I very quickly felt restricted in it as i got bigger. But in shorts everyone is different. My friend who is 29 weeks is smaller than me. Ive gone bump at front but some people get wider.
We are over the moon to be expecting and no regrets but if the dress is important to you I'd consider waiting until much closer to the wedding/after :)

Brandaris · 05/06/2021 05:36

I’m a bridal alterations seamstress. Pretty much any dress can be altered but you need matching material (contact the shop you bought your dress) and a decent, experienced seamstress. The lace makes it easier, not harder as pp suggested as you can hide a lot with lace.

Just a few months pregnant- you might be able to let out seams, add corset back. Corset backs add more space mainly higher up the back as they are a v shape, not always so helpful where you need space at the bump.

Very pregnant- you will need panels adding to give you more space. This is where extra fabric is needed. If you don’t have matching you might have to have whatever your seamstress can find. They might be able to take a few pieces from elsewhere on the dress where you can’t tell it’s gone.

Other things to think about- the boning might become uncomfortable with a bump so you might need some removed which will make it less supported at the bust. You don’t want your baby to get squeezed by the dress so you’ll end up with a looser fitting dress overall.

Get yourself booked in and warn the seamstress you might be pregnant, and be ready for a £250-£500 bill for alts depending on how far along you are!