Wedding present question

[TurdCrapley]

I'm not getting married for another few months but a family member has posted a wedding present to us already. When would you open it? It makes sense to me to wait til after the wedding but is it rude to not open it straight away so we can thank them? I've already thanked them for sending us a present anyway but I just don't know what to do now.

It is entirely appropriate to open a wedding gift when it is received and to promptly send a thank you note.

Open it when received and write the thank you letter immediately.

It's really quite important to let the person know that it has safely arrived, and writing the thank you letter now is a good idea as it means you haven't such a large task later

I would've obviously told them it's been received and thanked them then. If I was sent a birthday or Christmas present before the day, I would wait til the day to open it so I didn't know if the same etiquette applies to weddings. I will open it when it's delivered and send a thank you note.

If I was sent a birthday or Christmas present before the day, I would wait til the day to open it so I didn't know if the same etiquette applies to weddings.

No, it doesn't. You open wedding presents when they arrive.

Okay, thanks!

It used to be a “thing”, here in Scotland at least, to have a show of presents before the wedding. People would go round to the bride’s parents’ house to admire the display of presents. It was odd to bring presents to the wedding rather than send them beforehand.