So disappointed - bowel cancer means I have to cancel wedding AGAIN!

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So I was diagnosed with bowel cancer last week, and met my oncology team yesterday and I won't be able to have my wedding or honeymoon.

We had to cancel last year because of the dreaded covid, and we had everything rearranged for this year and now it won't happen. I'm just so so disappointed. It sounds awful, but I'm more upset about the wedding than the cancer at the moment (I'm sure that will change soon!)

I had the perfect weekend organised, just close family for a long weekend in a lovely barn venue, finally together after last year, amazing food sorted and I think everything would have been as perfect as it could've been and now this.

I just wanted a moan as everyone around me is saying to stay positive and that I will be alive etc but no-one seems to understand how I feel about having this taken away from me again. I just feel really sad.

Thanks for listening x

I'm so sorry to hear both about the cancer and the cancelled wedding. Absolutely rubbish for you and your partner.

I take it moving the date forward isn't an option? Even if it had to be arranged in a rush before treatment starts (I presume that's why you're cancelling?)

Best of luck with the treatment. It will be a double celebration of love and life when it finally happens.

It sounds like this is how you're processing the news of your cancer diagnosis to be fair to you OP. It's a difficult time you're facing right now and I wish you well.

You can still get married. It won't necessarily be what you planned, but it is possible.

Wishing you all the best op.

Gosh I’m so sorry, I also had to cancel a wedding last year and it’s absolutely gutting. I’ve no advice but just wanted to say I can totally see how cancelling again would be awful, cancer aside. Sending a hand hold and wishing you all the best for your treatment (and an extra special wedding bash when you can)

So sorry op this is so tough for you. Wishing you all the best for the future.

Oh I hate the "stay positive" thing so much. Bad stuff is happening, you are allowed to feel sad, angry, disappointed, scared, whatever; and you are allowed to express that. Moan away.

Cancer is the biggest fuckwit out there, bastard thing. My daughter had cancer aged 11, and I’m totally opposed to the ‘stay positive’ message, you can feel whatever you need to feel right now!

So sorry your going through this OP

You don't have to stay positive. You've had massive news, you are allowed to feel however you want to feel. You are allowed to moan, rant, scream, cry whatever. And I would argue that its important you do

We cancelled in December 2019 due to DH being far to ill from Chemo for lymphoma. Then COVID hit.
3/4 we went to registrars office with just 2 friends and my daughter. We will have big party once DH is better and COVID is over.
But honestly just being married is the best bit. He also has some more pretty hefty treatment coming up and some how being husband and wife makes it feel less awful.