Soap as a wedding favour?

[jumperweather]

They'd be personalised or have our names on.

What do people think of this?

Thank you

[Namechangelegalquestion]

I would like the idea that your friend made one, and would take it home to my bathroom to display.

[OhioOhioOhio]

A scratchcard for cocktails at the bar sounds awesome.

[Bluntness100]

My immediate reaction is no, who would give soap as a wedding favour.

However based on thr drip feed you could say to your guests at the speeches that it’s a free sample or gift from your friend as they have just started their business

But it’s a bit anthea Turner to use your wedding to promote someone’s business,

[deplorabelle]

If they are small soaps, someone is bound to eat one thinking it's a sweet or chocolate surely? I am certain my DH would...

[im5050]

Well I would probably get some cute hand sanatizer in a mini bottle 😂

[JimandPam]

I would steer clear of soap, especially if advertising a friends business-really cringe.

I'd also avoid scratch cards. What if someone one really really big?

The best wedding favours were at a friends wedding where they put a game on every table which involved all the table playing together. They were personalised with their initials on it but it encouraged people who didn't know each other to spark up a conversation and was a talking point all evening. Our table had 20 questions and we had headbands to stick our names onto and then guess who we were (not sure if it is 20 questions but was great fun). One table had a 'who dunnit?' game and I think another had to complete a giant jigsaw. Must have been a bit pricey but such fun.

[SlipperTripper]

Just make sure the soap doesn't LOOK edible... I can imagine my dopey DH thinking 'oooh, nougat/fruit jellies etc!' and having a chomp 🙄

[jumperweather]

Yeah, I think 70 something soaps in a room probably would change the scent of it!

(Hopefully we get married this year!)

We were already thinking of having a Sweet cart /station area - I'm all for that actually!
So this would be purely helping her out, and I think my DP doesn't care what we do really, and said it was up to me! So obviously I came to the very wise Mumsnet!
She is more DP's friend than mine. She is a very lovely, awesome person! I just didn't picture soaps at my wedding!

I'm also then wondering if it means I'd have to be totally laid back about everything and just leave her to it, and not know what they smell like or look like or how they'd be packaged as I'm not paying for it....so that stresses me out?
Although I'm sure she'd send me photos and samples if I wanted them.

I'm torn between being a bitchzilla and saying no and a OhI'mNotSureAboutThisZilla and saying yes!

[Iheartsheep]

I had a lockdown wedding and my favours were personalised masks as all guests had to wear one in church. Totally naff but actually the guests thought they were funny and wore them for silly pictures throughout the day.

[DuzzyFuck]

Best favour I've had was a mini-jagermeister and a shot glass with the date of the wedding/names of the couple on it.

A heart shaped tea strainer was a nice one. I've never used it but it's there in the drawer and reminds me of the day.

Can't remember any other favour from any other wedding 🤷🏽‍♀️

[OhioOhioOhio]

Could she do hand sanitiser?

[SendMeHome]

@jumperweather I wouldn’t stress yourself out about favours. Someone told me that they never get taken home when I got engaged and I was sure they did... but I looked out from then, and however nice they were, they never did. The only always-popular favours I’ve seen we’re pick’n’mix, which everyone seemed to love, and last year face masks with the persons role on them - mother of the bride, brides friend, nephew, etc. They got a lot of smiles and coordinated the photos better, but the bride collected them up at the end to be recycled I think.

[SendMeHome]

We did have hand sanitizer in cute bottles everywhere at ours, but most people used their own and nobody took them home. I’ve still got loads of it and we gave loads to the wedding party too

[LadyPenelope68]

Favours are a waste of money, loads just get left. I’ve rarely ever even bothered taking them from any wedding I’ve been to and nobody will notice if you don’t have them,

[Daisydoesnt]

OP please don’t do the soaps that is such an awful idea- have you really not heard of how Anthea Turner was pilloried for promoting that chocolate bar at her wedding? Sorry it’s a definite no from me.

[donquixotedelamancha]

Someone will eat the soap, thinking it's hippy sweets.

[rc22]

I did little candle holders and put sweets in them everyone ate or took the sweets but left the candle holders behind. Wish I'd just done the sweets now.

[sausagepastapot]

Our favours were mini bottles of wine or Prosecco which went down very well...! Had to ask permission from the venue of course but they were very happy with that. We also did little bags of nicely foil wrapped mint chocolates from Makro which all went too.

I wouldn't care for soap myself.

[mamalovebird]

How about you put them in the loos of your reception in a basket in a 'free sample - please take one' type of thing?
That way you still get to do your own favours and can still do her a favour if she wants to put out samples?

I put bowls of mints, perfume etc in the loos at my reception for people to freshen up if they wanted to.
As for the favours themselves, we made a donation of £1 per guest to a cancer charity (as my DF died of it and DHs mum was recovering from it) and they sent us a pin badge for each. We pinned it to a little card and put it on the seats at the ceremony.

[OhioOhioOhio]

The free sample is a great idea.

[LittleGungHo]

She is only offering the soaps for free so that she can add her advertising card to drum up business. Do you want someone marketing their business at your wedding?

We did charity donation to Marie Curie, got a small card printed and gave everyone a pin badge.

I have enjoyed fudge or chocolates before but the cost soon adds up.

[SugarCoatIt]

We had miniature whisky for the men, and bath fizz for the ladies, but we only had the bath fizz because it came from an independent shop in a place very special and dear to us, it was in an organza bag and had the name of the independent shop and special place on them, so people could make the connection there. But I'm going back over a decade.

However, I don't think I'd go for soap.

All the weddings I've been to have had sugared almonds, or chocolates for all the guests.

[SugarCoatIt]

@LittleGungHo and @mamalovebird that is beautiful, I love this.

[londongirl12]

I don't think guests really care about wedding favours. It's not what they remember from the day. Always seem a waste of money to me

[londongirl12]

@deplorabelle

If they are small soaps, someone is bound to eat one thinking it's a sweet or chocolate surely? I am certain my DH would...

This is a good point!! Sometimes soap could look like coloured fudge. Now that would make your wedding a talking point if someone ate it 😂