Covid wedding

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After a lot of back and fourth if we should wait a few years or just do it (original wedding was cancelled in April) we have decided, booked and we're having a covid wedding . Not how I imagined my wedding to be but the important people will be there and we can tie everything together now we have our baby.

Anyone else planning a covid wedding? Or had a covid wedding who can advise what they would/wouldn't do differently?

We didn't have a covid wedding but we had a tiny wedding a couple of years back. Just parents, siblings (& their partners) and our grandparents. Less than 15 of us in total, including my husband and I.

In terms of advice

• Depending on the time of year i'd recommend having a later ceremony. There's no point rushing around early in the morning to be ready early if you don't have to. A slow paced morning and build up is nice, you can have a proper breakfast and/or lunch and it's much more relaxed. We had a 4pm ceremony and it was perfect.

• If you're still having a photographer, take into account sunset time on the day of your wedding. Google it if you need to and plan to have some couple photos during the 30-45 minutes before the sun sets. If you get a nice sunset on the day this is the prime time for photos and you'll get some wonderful golden hour glowy shots.

Thanks for the photography tips, sounds very similar it's a winter wedding for 15 people (only immediate family and partners/children are invited). And the wedding is also in the afternoon, having a low key reception at the venue which will still be open to the public, no speeches/dances etc. We were thinking of photography before the ceremony so there is no awkward hanging around for the 2 sides of the family, I've seen on google some loverly "first look" shots

I'm starting to get excited again now and looking on the bright side - no having to invite this friend because so and so is invited, or great uncle nick who I haven't seen since I was a baby. Or plus ones I've never met taking up table space. Plus more money towards a bigger house deposit!

Also I'm not a hugger, so no need for that either ha!

We had a first look and i'd definitely recommend those too. It was something nice to look forward to after being ready without that pressure of walking straight into a ceremony. It was both of our favourite part of the day. A lovely intimate moment together before everything else and a way to guarantee we'd have a shared moment just the two of us. It made the rest of the day feel exciting.

I’m getting married in March and it’s looking likely to be a ‘covid wedding’. We were planning on a small wedding anyway so luckily we haven’t had to amend our numbers. The only thing I’m worried about is entertainment. At the moment music, singing and dancing is banned so I’d be interested in some ideas around entertaining guests other than getting drunk at the bar!

Our venue has allowed music for my entrance (I'm still going OTT on the things I'm allowed to do! Big dress etc!) trying to think of ways to make it more light hearted- thought about using face masks as the invites or maybe pop one in with the invite so everyone matches the colour scheme....

Non music related entertainment ideas

• Garden games. Most venues already have things like giant Jenga,but you can also do things like sack racing, coconut shy, swing ball, limbo for cheap
• Bingo and personalised quizzes or a "Mr & Mrs" game are good for indoors
• Photo challenge (print a list of photo ideas you'd like people to capture "someone smiling" "something funny" for example. Its fun to see how different people interpret different ideas)
• Beer pong/non alcoholic version
• DIY photo booth
• Interactive guest books
• Board games/table games/cards/dominos
• Gamer tournament (wii, playstation, nintendo etc console set up and people can challenge one another)

@AnnieMaul they are great ideas, thank you!

Sooooooo Boris has said only 15 guests..... I can still have my 12 it's ok.... how long until he says witnesses only f**king up our plans again 🤦🏼‍♀️.

And if it's witnesses only the venue won't cancel so we will have to go ahead with it without all our parent there 🤦🏼‍♀️

Oh god I’ve felt like I’m the only one 😭

Ours is in three weeks and we’ve got a really big immediate family.

It’s going to be awful trying to work numbers down from the thirty.

And we’d only just sorted out an alternative reception venue as the place we’re having our ceremony has furloughed their kitchen and waiting staff so no longer do receptions. 😭😭😭

@frazzledasarock I feel like a lot of wider family who we are close to are offended they can't come because the limit was 30 - but they forget that in the numbers are the register, photographer and the couple. Explaining that to everyone seems to go in one ear and out the other. Also we need to draw a line somewhere so we said immediate family only.

How many guests were you hoping for?

My DP’s immediate family consists of eight people, that’s siblings and parents.
And we have four children (two together).

Then there’s us, plus two registrars.

I really want my maid of honour there and DP’s best man.

We’d had guest numbers down to twenty seven people.

I’ve cancelled the photographer today.

I’m so tired and stressed out over the whole thing.

I also don’t get why

Also don’t get why the difference in attendees to funerals and weddings.

The rules make little sense and keep changing week on week.

I know, it's a shame because I know where we're getting married all the social distancing is in place and it's table service for food. However it is a risk we decided to take because we want to get married so even if they go down to 2 witnesses we will be getting married as planned. We have however decided we would have a blessing/big party in a few years when rules can be relaxed again.