2021 brides, how confident are you?

[MissRabbitIsExhausted]

Anyone getting married next year and confident you will be able to have a "Normal" wedding with no restrictions?

We aren't getting married until August but to be honest each day I'm feeling less confident it'll go as planned.

I'm now wondering if I should just plan for a small 40 all day/night then I won't be wasting money on invites etc for no reason.

We were only planning 60/70 anyway not a massive day.

How is everyone else feeling?
I know this sounds selfish because people's big days this year were cancelled, sorry to anyone who was affected but I'm feeling a bit down today that I can't even have a nice day out with my mum and bridesmaids searching for my dress because we can't all be in the shop together!

Sorry, total first world problems I know!

I understand your anxiety!! (even first worlder's have issues )

I have just booked my venue for late 2022 and I have a niggle in the back of my mind about the whole COVID thing being disruptive even then.

Hope it all works out for you!

Oh I hope so. I was supposed to get married this year and we have to wait til September 2021. I am still hoping we can have the wedding we want with all those we love with us.

Thanks @Finn10, surely things have to be back to normal by then! Planning a wedding is supposed to be exciting, I hope things are a lot better by then for you and you can have a stress free day!

@RhubarbRocks sorry you had to postpone this year! That must have been a really hard decision, hopefully by next year things are normal.

I really need to start looking at wedding dresses but it's annoying me I can't take all my bridesmaids with me, I'm only having 3 but can't have them, me and my mum in the shop at the time. I know we can do zoom calls but I was looking forward to a nice day out, I feel like I can't get excited about anything at the moment really!

we had to postpone from June this year to April ne t year, was feeling confident that all would be fine and we would be back to normal but feeling less confident each passing week tbh. Weve already said if the restrictions are still in place we won't be rescheduling we will just go ahead with a smaller than planned wedding

@Charlottejade89 sorry you had to reschedule, it must have been very stressful.

We are the same we will be going ahead anyway, I just want to get married now, I think if we hadn't already paid so much we would just elope now to take the uncertain out of it!

Ours was meant to be early summer next year, but we've pushed it back a year. I don't think we'd be allowed a bigger wedding than 30 people by then, and it's not worth the risk of infection. Wanted to get ahead of the game too before others start booking up dates.

I'm pretty confident but we are having a very small (20 people) and non-traditional wedding.

We postponed ours (120 guests) from October 2020 to March 2021...now planning a 30 person wedding for the date in March and probably a party a year later. Not ideal but don't want to wait another year!

April 2021 in Scotland and pretty much resigned to the planned wedding we had not happening. Headlines today of 6 months of restrictions. Sorry to be doom and gloom

We were supposed to get married august this year and now it's rescheduled for august next year, and we're already thinking we won't be able to have the wedding we were planning.
We wanted over 140 people and now are thinking we'll have to plan for closer to the 30 people limit that's in place now. If that goes up slightly to more like 40 or 50 people then great, but whatever the restrictions are, we'll be getting married then, no matter what.
Good luck with your dress and planning

Yeah after the last few days I really doubt it'll be any more than 40/50, which is fine, I just think I would rather know which i know is impossible at this stage

The hotel we are getting married at has no availability until mid 2022 now, so moving it wouldn't be an option anyway, but we will just be getting married.

I got my dress on Sunday, I won't be waiting until 2022 to wear it 😂

We booked in spring 2019, had always planned to get married July 2021. It's hard to get excited as we can't see the wedding we want happening next July. If we can only have a restricted number we'll probably just cancel, move it forward a year.

I feel the same @Glitterbubbles
I can't get excited, reluctant to order invites for people, arrange buses and transport etc to then need to univite people and lose money. It's so hard to decide what to do.

I don't want to push you in to a decision and you would need to speak to your venue but ours is so busy in 2021 that 2022 is already almost full, so moving forward for us wouldn't be an option at all!

@MissRabbitIsExhausted

I feel the same *@Glitterbubbles* I can't get excited, reluctant to order invites for people, arrange buses and transport etc to then need to univite people and lose money. It's so hard to decide what to do.

I don't want to push you in to a decision and you would need to speak to your venue but ours is so busy in 2021 that 2022 is already almost full, so moving forward for us wouldn't be an option at all!

That is so rubbish, I'm sorry about that :( would you consider moving to 2023 if needs be?!

For us it's less about the actual act of marriage (we've had a mortgage together for almost 3 years) than having a big party with our family and friends to celebrate our being together. We are keen to get on with starting a family and were going to start TTC just after the wedding. But I think if next summer is a no-go and we can't even book for 2022, we'll book for 2023 and just start TTC regardless.

The only complicating factor is that we have elderly family members who we'd want to see us get married. We might consider an earlier small civil ceremony for the actual legal marriage part for that reason. I really hope it works out for you! 🤞🏼

I'm confident but we are 27th December. Postponed from the same date this year.

Furious but confident.

We postponed our June wedding for 130 guests to next June but now considering a small wedding on Rhodes instead. It's a hard decision!

Booked for Oct 2021

I'm hopeful

Just me and my MOH went dress shopping and I found my dress. Second fitting in feb 🤞

We wanted about 100 guests, who knows

I'm getting married late September 2021 but having a bit of a sinking feeling that COVID will have other ideas like with this year (had COVID not had other ideas I would've got married last weekend). I sent out participant request cards late August but only half have replied (most of the participants who haven't replied are children), I'm wondering if COVID is why.

It's really getting me down this week thinking about it. We are booked for August next year, have been since before lockdown and I just cannot get excited. I hate the thought of not knowing. I need to start looking at invitations and favours and things and can't bring myself to when I don't know how many people it'll be for. We were only planning 70 all day & night but now thinking of trying to get that down to a realistic 40ish?
I don't know what to do at all 🤷‍♀️

We have just booked for Oct 2021, we will move it if needed. We only want 40 day and 60 night, but I am not cutting back. And I want music and dancing!

My ex gets married this Friday, he had postponed from May this year. I don't know how their venue has done it, but they are having 15 people at the ceremony but the planned 35 at the meal. We are Tier one.

We've had to move ours to May 21. If we can't have the full day because of restrictions, we're cancelling and wilk try again in a few years. We want our whole day and am not postponing for a 4th date, we've had enough

I won't be moving, I can't take the stress of planning one never mind doing it again the next year 😂

I just wish I knew what would happen, I know that's silly though. I do think it's just the unknown.

I think we could realistically get to 40 guests, any less and I would struggle (we have large families) but if we have to then that's what we will need to do I suppose.

Other people don't help either, I have an auntie who keeps telling me how upset she'll be if she needs to miss it whereas at the moment I'm more stressed that some of our actual immediate family might not make it!

We were meant to be getting married this coming Saturday, but have postponed until October next year. Whatever happens next year we will still go ahead - by the time our wedding comes around we will have been together 10 years and engaged for two and a half. I actually don't think I would cope with the stress of postponing again, and just want to get it over and done with!

Our wedding was cancelled in April and honestly I feel like we got the better end of the stick as opposed to those who at the time were planned for around now and beyond. At least we knew very quickly it was cancelled and that was it. We ended up getting married a short time ago just with immediate family.

Just a word of caution to anyone looking at still going ahead. Wedding insurance is highly unlikely to pay out if your planned day can’t go ahead, ours refused and that was at the height of lockdown. We also had quite a bit of accommodation booked who have refused to refund (even though they are obligated to) Had to fight tooth and nail for other refunds for venue etc and some others, like the florist also refused to refund monies. We lost a lot of money, some of which we knew we wouldn’t get back but others we felt we were entitled to.

Interestingly didn’t lose any of the money from the honeymoon, just the day itself.

I could have written your post OP. We're meant to be November 21 and I just can't see it happening. And even if a full wedding is possible I don't think I can wait with the uncertainty of not knowing whether to get planning or not when we hit the other side of Christmas. I've done nothing so far other than pay the initial deposit, venue want to book a planning meeting and for us to pay the next instalment but I'm so reluctant and feel so down about the whole thing.

I've re-looked at the numbers. I originally was planning for 60 day and 90 evening. I just can't get them below 40 and really don't want to compromise on our day. I've dreamed about planning my wedding and getting married for so long I don't want to have regrets for not hanging on another year or so to have the wedding I wanted! But I do really want to crack on and marry OH and have some babies

I also feel guilty for even discussing this when other couple have had to postpone, and thank goodness us and all our family and friends are still healthy and that all that matters during a pandemic I suppose.