Anyone else not able to get excited about their rearranged wedding?

[Catchingbabies]

Was supposed to be getting married this year until CoVid has other ideas.

In the run up I was SOOO excited but now I just feel quite flat about it all. It’s all been rearranged so we have a new date but it doesn’t feel the same and I’m not doing the same excited countdown that I was this time last year. I think the worries of limited guest numbers, potential second wave and its impact etc. really isn’t helping but does anyone else feel like this?

Hoping this shifts a little closer to the big day.

I'm not in this situation myself but I got married around this time 6 years ago and said to DH I would have been devastated if this happened to us. You will not be alone in how you feel.

I'm so sorry, op. Obviously, it's not the end of the world, but it is a massive letdown and emotionally draining. My cousin's daughter is going through this. Her first fiance walked out on her four years ago, 1 month before their big wedding. Luckily found a wonderful man and were supposed to get married in May, another big wedding planned and cancelled due to covid. Now it's up in the air and she has no idea what they're going to do. She's shattered and I feel awful for her. So many are dealing with this exact disappointment. I hope you feel better.

It’s understandable, things seem very different now.

If the big wedding seems flat maybe a total rethink of your day is in order?

I say that as someone who got married a long time ago in a big do and loved it (as did our guests apparently) but wouldn’t repeat it, looking at the photos we are only in meaningful contact with less than 30% of the guests now. Covid might allow you to do things differently, spend differently and make it more intimate and more special. We were definitely heading a show that day, which was fun but there are other wonderful options out there.

Next year my cousin is getting married and it’s likely to be a show stopper wedding but I think we will be uncomfortable as guests because if the restrictions are fewer there will be lots of people and lots of drinking whereas a good friend is also getting married and her day is less than 20 people and will be beautiful and great fun and lots of people who really, really want to be there, not 50 plus ones and a group of people from the office.

I hear ya.

Onto our third date now! Next March. Cannot get excited as we were due to get married in March this year and got cancelled with 2 weeks to go 😭 feel like we did all the excitement then and now I just can't see us being able to have anything like the day we wanted.

We moved ours from May until next May originally. I couldn’t get excited about it at all. In the end we got married two weeks ago, much smaller, totally different. I loved it, as did husband, and I’m so glad we didn’t wait any longer. We might have a “bigger” party to celebrate at some point, or we might not, but it was perfect for us.

I feel exactly the same! We rearranged to next July and it feels so long away now. I almost just want to sod the whole thing off and elope but I'm worried about disappointing our families and also worried I'll eventually regret it. But absolutely no excitement whatsoever at the moment

Glad it’s not just me.

We were never having a ‘big’ wedding anyway and are happy with what we’ve chosen it just feels like the shine has been taken off as silly as that sounds.

Plus my partner’s grandad has since passed away so that’s one guest who should have been there and now won’t be.

We’re now booked for March. I really can’t see it happening how we planned.

I feel you OP. I’m (supposed to be) getting married in March and everything is up in the air. People keep telling me everything will be fine but the media paints a bleak picture. Meh, what will be will be.

Op i feel exactly the same. We were supposed to be getting married in July. 60 guests so not massive, a casual wedding really.

That obviously got cancelled and then we re booked it for the same weekend next year. But i just cant get excited either. I don't even feel like its going to happen - or if it does everyone will be wearing masks 2m apart, or we will have to half the guest list.

And then the cost, i dont want to spend the same amount on a wedding for 30 as i would for 60 and i dont know whether the caterer will let me half the amount, and what notice i would need to give for that. And will we be able to have an evening do?

The list goes on. I am considering cancelling the whole thing and just going to the register office but dp is not keen and wants to wait it out.

Yeah I feel the same. October wedding now postponed until March. Can't get too excited in case it all has to be cancelled again!

Yep, feel totally flat and unexcited almost like what's the point.
We were meant to get married in April this year, obvs didn't happen. We did get legally married in the summer which was wonderful with just 2 guests. It was the best day ever believe it or not.
We did have our big wedding moved to October this year but realised no way will it happen so we're now having our wedding a year later in april 2021

I'm quite meh about the whole thing, it feels like I can't fully get my hopes up.

If they allow hundreds of kids in schools to mingle and want workers back in offices then they need to allow weddings surely.
We've been totally forgotten about.
And imagine the backlog of ppl trying to get married.

I'm hoping if the school's go back and we don't have a second wave then weddings will be opened up and allowed.

I feel you. May wedding postponed to November then postponed to July. I managed to keep all my suppliers bar one and I have no impetus to organise a new one. I know I have to but I just have lost all will to do it.

@ShellsAndSunrises

We moved ours from May until next May originally. I couldn’t get excited about it at all. In the end we got married two weeks ago, much smaller, totally different. I loved it, as did husband, and I’m so glad we didn’t wait any longer. We might have a “bigger” party to celebrate at some point, or we might not, but it was perfect for us.

That sounds the way to go in these times.

Count your blessings and enjoy what type of wedding you have, if you are marrying the right person, that's all that matters.

@TrustTheGeneGenie

Op i feel exactly the same. We were supposed to be getting married in July. 60 guests so not massive, a casual wedding really.

That obviously got cancelled and then we re booked it for the same weekend next year. But i just cant get excited either. I don't even feel like its going to happen - or if it does everyone will be wearing masks 2m apart, or we will have to half the guest list.

And then the cost, i dont want to spend the same amount on a wedding for 30 as i would for 60 and i dont know whether the caterer will let me half the amount, and what notice i would need to give for that. And will we be able to have an evening do?

The list goes on. I am considering cancelling the whole thing and just going to the register office but dp is not keen and wants to wait it out.

So dp wants the wedding party more than the marriage? That's a worry.

I'm the same. Postponed from may this year to October. Postponed again til next may. We both know it will be shit and not at all what we wanted.

@sallyshirt it's all very well enjoying what you can but anyone who cancelled 6-8 weeks before will have paid probably in full for a wedding. I'd rather enjoy what I've paid for