Wedding gifts & covid

[Alez]

Hi everyone

Just looking for a bit of advice on what's best. We've had to reduce our wedding guest invite to just immediate family at our wedding due to covid. We're still planning to have a big wedding reception but have moved the party to next year. We'll be inviting everyone to the party that would have been invited to the wedding. For this year we're planning to send out a zoom link so anyone who wants to watch the ceremony can.

My question is when should we give people gift information? We were going to just ask for contributions to our honeymoon. Should we tell people this when we send them the info about the actual wedding (we'll be sending a PDF version of our invites with the details so it will look all nice!) Or should we tell them when we send them the invites for the party?

On the party invite - would look grabby otherwise

Sorry, I don't think you can ask for gifts when they are being invited to what's basically a big party next year surely. If people want to give you money that's up to them and most probably will anyway?

Although we didn't ask for gifts on our wedding invites (pre Covid) as I find that uncomfortable. So I'm probably the wrong person to give an opinion on this!

"My question is when should we give people gift information?"

When they ask for it.

And to nudge them into,doing so, talk yo your most gossipy friend and family members (one on each side ) somthat word can spread for you, not by you

I don't think you can mention gifts really.
They aren't coming to the wedding.
I think most will gift cash or bring a gift to the party but I don't think in these circumstances you can really request honeymoon money etc. It will look real cheeky.

No. Just no.

I i ta OK to put a gift list or request in the invite when they're coming and enjoying your hospitality, but MN will rip you to shreds for greediness even for that.

But no, don't ask for money off the people who get to sit at home and watch you on zoom

If they want gift advice they will ask for it. Anything else is not really acceptable. You are inviting them and hosting a party to share your joy in your new life together. Some will give presents or money and some won't.

You don’t include it with anything. People will ask for it, plus tell your gossipy family members and they will spread the work.

We had a traditional list of household items, we didn’t put it in with the invitations (and DH side never even saw it) but still every single item was purchased.

Don’t over think it. People know cash is a great gift, and in the absence of a list will gravitate towards that.

Sorry spread the word

Do not include gift wishes to people only coming to the party

If they went to give you something they will ask, or just do so.

I’ve known a few people that have had to reduce guest numbers drastically and I’m ashamed to say the number one thing they are moaning about is the fact that they won’t receive enough money for their honeymoon now. I kid you not. Atrocious and embarrassing behaviour

Wait until people ask. You will massively piss guests off by asking for gifts. It just looks grabby.

We’re in the same situation. I’d wait for people to ask. A lot of people are tight on money right now and some seem to class coming or watching your wedding online as a big thing, so I wouldn’t expect as much as you would have for a normal wedding... definitely no invite stuff to anyone just coming to the party next year, class them as evening guests regardless of how much you’re actually putting on.

People who want to buy something will give you cash or ask.